It's also just generally a good idea to try different things when you're not satisfied with sex or masturbation - I'd count different ways of using muscles in that, just as much as different positions, toys, movements, erotica, time and place etc. So experimenting in ways like what's described in th...

It's also a symptom of a cold. ;) One of the reasons why the articles here advise against thinking about "pregnancy symptoms" is that all of them, apart from having several missed periods, are also very common symptoms of other things, and many are also things that just happen randomly lik...

I'm sorry to hear you're having such a tough time of it! *jedi hugs* Have the four of you talked about the stuff you're worried about? Communicating beforehand, about stuff like what kinds of sex you're going to have, what toys each person does/doesn't want to use and so on, is just as important for...

In the interest of balancing your experiences slightly, I really enjoyed the first time I had sex. And I've enjoyed it almost every time since, too, with cis and trans people of a variety of genders. :) Of course a significant amount of that is luck: anyone can end up having a bad sexual experience ...

I'm glad to hear it's working out well for you!

Yes, you'll need 5 posts before you can post everywhere, but while you're still under that you can post in here abnd in the Ask Us forum.

I think you can recognise and accept that some of the things that make you feel good - like making yourself look in a way which matches up with your idea of attractive - are socially conditioned, without negating the value that they have in terms of making you feel good. One of the things self-care ...

Of course, if Mills' partner isn't willing to try an open relationship, that doesn't mean that he doesn't really love her. Just as much as Mills isn't required to sacrifice their sexual autonomy for their partner, nor is their partner required to sacrifice his romantic autonomy for Mills.

It really seems like you're treating masturbation as this exact science, where you just have to get the variables right and then - BAM - orgasm! I totally get the frustration of wanting to orgasm but just not seeming to be able to get there, but the best way to solve that problem, in my experience, ...

My experience would definitely back up what Amanda said there - the implant isn't brittle: you can poke it, squish it and rock it around once it's in without any damage or discomfort. If you take a look at the patient information, it talks about how your body tends to heal in such a way that it form...

Yeah, I agree with AvocadoLime here. It really sounds like this guy makes you nervous on several fronts. And while that doesn't necessarily mean he's a bad guy (though if he sexually assaulted someone then, yeah, he's also a bad guy), you want to be comfortable around someone you're dating - even if...

I suspect you've already thought of this, but if you do decide to go ahead with stuff that may turn out to trigger you or just be uncomfortable for you, basic kink safety is really important. Make sure you've both got a clear way of communicating to each other if you need things to stop, and that it...

You mentioned being afraid that your parents will cut off your financial support if they know you're having sex with your boyfriend. I just wanted to ask: do you think that's a realistic fear? Are they likely, without any discussion or negotiation, to kick you out or stop paying your college fees ov...

Another option to make it easier on you might be to block him on social media, so you can't spend ages watching his every move. You'd probably want to message him first telling him why you're doing it, so he doesn't panic thinking he's mortally offended you :P I don't think it's necessarily true tha...

My experience is that parents who want to be supportive but are also kind of uncomfortable with their kid's identity often do this, where they sort of accept it but don't want to think of it as final. I'm sure it's not deliberate nor intended to make the person who came out to them uncomfortable, bu...

To me a big part of it is being comfortable with doing and saying things wrong, and not needing to worry about my partner's reaction. Believing (and being right) that I can take emotional risks, and that she'll respond gently and with understanding even if it all goes wrong, is something I haven't r...

Not coming out, or only coming out to certain people, is a completely reasonable decision to make if you feel comfortable that way. I don't know if you'd agree, but from what you've said here it seems like you've really got your head around all this.

I think in terms of rape culture, it actually doesn't have to be a specific type of pornography to contribute - i.e. pornography which is intended to depict rape. Even "normal" porn tends to include a lot of ideas that are central to rape culture: that women don't enjoy sex or that women's...

Since you've only got one post so far, you'll need to stick to the two Newbieville boards (Ask Us and Got Questions? Get Answers) for now, until you have 5 posts.

Also, different people have very different body odours, so even one person is probably going to feel differently about the smell of genitals depending on whose genitals they are.

It's a bit of an obscure one, but I really like the romance between Ezri and Jean in Red Seas Under Red Skies, by Scott Lynch. It doesn't bow to any of the traditional romance tropes: Ezri is first mate on a pirate ship, Jean is her freed captive. All the dialogue and description of them together is...

And if you decide that you do want to identify as bi at this point in your life: Welcome to the dark side! We have cookies.

Another option might be performance; acting, dance, giving speeches or presentations at student events, reciting if you like creative writing. They're not particularly exercisey, with the exception of dance, but they are ways of consciously using your body and the way it moves and works to achieve a...

I'm gonna share some links here, which might be tough reading for you, because they're stories of people who are very, very frustrated and pissed off with doctors and nurses. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, I swear :P I haven't read HAES, but it sounds like it covers a lot of the issues these l...

I think this might be a thing where you have to put up with the uncomfortable result (fantasies which rely on harmful stereotypes) while you work on their cause (holding those stereotypes). I think that once you've spent enough time unlearning the -isms, (general) you'd probably find that (general) ...