Sorry for taking so long to get back to the topic. I kinda needed some time to think things over. Thank you very, very much for all the help. I am so glad you exist! :) There is this one thing that I probably forgot to mention about this issue: that is, it seems like my first experience on getting i...

Hello! I am currently 6 days away from my last ovulation. I notice that I have been dry these days. But, just recently I masturbated--didn't wash my hands first, my bad--and around 3 hours later I got a gush of vaginal discharge that was white and creamy. Is this normal to have such thing during my ...

Ah, alright. This kinda sheds light on my problem. So you say I am still entitled to have my borders and 'fears' no matter how risk-free the sexual activities are? Because there are times where I would just tell myself that I am not supposed to worry if the activities are pregnancy risk free--which,...

It was not in the sense of forcing how he does it. He asks me in such a way that is irressistible and tumbles down my border walls?

Like he assures me that it's safe to do so? He has more experience with sex than I do... so sometimes I justt fall into believing him although I will still feel worried afterwards.

The second it is.

Sometimes it's me. Although I am very careful most of the time during sex, there are moments where I am like, "Screw it, it feels good, we both enjoy it, and I think it won't pose any risk" although I know very well that I will regret it afterwards. My partner sometimes makes sure by askin...

That sounds reasonable. I will Heather! Now that you mention it, something just pops in my mind... sometimes, when we're in heat of the moment, we are very prone to cross the borders that we set and regret it after all the passion dies down. Simply because it feels good. Do you have any suggestions ...

Thank you so much, Sam! I hope it will make me less worried

I'll try discussing it with my partner!

But if I may ask something, what counts as direct genital contact? Does rubbing with condom or underpants count?

Thank you so much, Heather!

Yes, we have access to condoms, and that's the method we use everytime we feel like rubbing naked (we never do PIV). Other than that, we usually just do manual, oral, or dry sex with underpants. I love seeing him orgasm actually! But maybe not anywhere near my body because it the semen makes me feel...

Hi! So I am currently tracking my menstrual cycle with an app, although I don't depend fully on it. I also check my cervical mucus quite regularly just to make sure where I'm at. The problem is that last year I had some cycles in a row where they were just crazy; by crazy I mean they were extremely ...

That's actually a good question. I think all I want is a pregnancy-risk free activities, whatever it is. I always notice that I always worry if one or both of us start to get completely naked. Even though our genitals are not touching each other I just feel insecure in such situation because it coul...

Hi Sam, thanks for the quick and kind answer! Yes, I feel like most of the points stated there resonate with me so much especially on the sex as shame and pregnancy as punishment part. It's only that I am not sure about the concrete steps I have to take next in order to overcome this feeling :( How ...

Hello! I'm a 20-something year-old woman, growing up and living in a very "conservative" and religious environment. I describe myself as a practicing person, too, although so much more liberal than most people here and I also share a different point of view about being intimate with a love...