That is a really good point, thank you. Thank you so much Sam and Andy, it was really helpful to talk things through with you two, I appreciate it so much <3

Yes, I agree definitely! I've started therapy just to see if there are any underlying layers of shame and/or guilt about my sexuality. I think for me the biggest issue isn't potential autohomophobia, but maybe the fear of failing masculinity? I don't know yet. I know the worst reaction that scares m...

Hi Andy, thank you so much for your response. Yes, I try to remind my self that their emotions are not my responsibility (even though I often feel responsible for it). I need to think about me and what would be the best for them, what kind of coming out would be best for me. Thank you for laying out...

Yes, I will need a break after that phone call. It is possible that they're going to keep calling me throughout the day or even week, but I'll see what's my strategy going to be, depending on their first reaction. And their relationship is between them, I agree. I just don't know if it's better to t...

It sounds logical and sensible, I agree with you and thank you. I think the call would be the best option and me telling them in person in their house would be the worst one. Do you think it's better to tell them together or separately? My mom is easier to handle because she doesn't get verbally abu...

Huh I don't feel well prepared to deal with possible negative reactions, that's true and that's the main issue. Even though I am objectively in a different position now at almost 30 years old, than I was at 14 when the subject of me being gay first came out, I still feel super scared and anxious. It...

Hi Sam, thank you for your response! I feel like it would be disrespectful to my boyfriend to just call him a friend in front of my parents. He would be understanding and supportive even of that option, but I feel like it goes against my principles. I also feel like I actually do need to be upfront ...

Hi! I know being in my late 20's I'm not a teen anymore, but you always give me such good advice. I have a boyfriend of 3 years now and we have a wonderful relationship and I really want to move in with him and we're both ready to start living together. However, I am not out to my parents and that's...

Thank you so much. Honestly, just changing perspective and being less worried about masturbating and porn felt liberating

You've all been very helpful and thank you so very much. I feel like I might have been looking at this issue from the wrong perspective and that things might actually be...perfect and that I might be creating problems when there aren't any. I would still appreciate some advice on how to restrain mys...

It does! But is it also dangerous in some way for my sex life? That it makes me harder to achieve orgasm and enjoy sex with a partner?

Hmm I'm wondering now whether all information about dangers of porn I had were plain propaganda even if they didn't seem radical to me at a time.

In this article, it says that I can't change the sensitivity of my genitals, but I've read a lot elsewhere that I can get desensitized to a looser grip than my own hand. So that is not correct?

Yes, thank you so much for understanding! I'm actually relieved that it's not that bad I sometimes fantasize about something else while having sex. I just wonder if it's bad if it's some porn scenes. I'm afraid my erections could become less strong and last for shorter amount of time. I'm also afrai...

The longer it takes me to reach orgasm, more pressured (only in my head, not by my partner) to orgasm I feel and harder it is to do it. And sometimes I need to think of porn scenes in order to cum with my partner. I think I might be too used to having new visual stimuli everytime I masturbate and ma...

Thank you for your reply! I absolutely agree that masturbation is an important part of my sexual behavior whether I'm in a relationship or not. While I don't feel it takes away from other things I want to be doing (though I probably would be more motivated to do other things if I'd stop), I sometime...

Hi! So I've been watching porn and masturbating...almost every single day since I was 14. I'm 26, gay guy now in a new happy fulfilling relationship! I thought this habit would disappear once I fall in love and it is much less frequent but it is still here. I do have a really active and fun and amaz...

Thank you so much!

Yes I would like to read some texts about ideal body image if you have something to recommend. And also on stop breaking the focus from negative thoughts and stop feeling bad about myself ^^''

You're absolutely right, it is an oversimplification and it's so genereal and out of my control and random which is why it's giving me such anxiety. I get compliments on how pretty I am, but I rarely feel desirable because I'm skinny instead of muscular. I think I kind of internalized that image and...

I'm not totally sure, but it's something close to the feeling of missing out. For example, I remember seeing my ex in a gym maybe a year ago and he was with his boyfriend and I got really upset but instantly knew that I wouldn't be upset at all if his new boyfriend wasn't hot. It gave me this same f...

Wow, thank you so much for saying that even more trust and communication are needed in this type of situation. I've felt this way, but thoughts it's unreasonable to need more trust in a casual relationship than in a committed one. I do flirt and guys do flirt with me and that helps a lot actually ha...

Oh and also, if I could get a piece of advice on this matter. This guy i was dating, I haven't seen him since he told me he's sleeping with his best mate 6 days ago, but I also haven't officially broken things off with him and now I'm conflicted. Should I just reframe my expectations and have casual...

Thank you so much for your answer. I feel like I can appreciate the good things and at the same time be really concerned with the bad things (actually the lack of good things, I honestly don't have bad things going on in my life which is why I feel guilty on the top of not being satisfied with somet...

Thank you for a reply. I feel like I do have strong boundaries and so far whenever I had sex, I had because I wanted to and it was always amazing. I'm just not satisfied with it occurring in high frequencies only for a few weeks during the year. I think my sense of myself is generally positive. I'm ...

Hello! Sorry to bother you, but you'd always given me such good advice and I really need to vent one out. So I'm 25 year old single gay guy and I've recently realized that if I don't have sex for some period of time I really start to feel worthless and like a freak. The thing is, I know I'm pretty a...