I was attracted to one of my coworkers and I always wanted to kiss him when I was ready. Finally, yesterday I told him that I wanted to make out, and he said he will if he receives head. I accepted that since it was fair. As he wanted me to give me head, which was consensual. I started to have flash...

Thank you, Sam! This source has helped others and me to heal from sexual trauma. I am still healing, but I am getting better each day. I am looking forward to the future as I am in college and working. School was hard as my ex would intimidate when I passed him by giving me a cold look. Which is tha...

Thank you, Sam! I have not looked at any of those resources, but I will be interested. I know that I am straight/ asexual, but one day when I am with a person who truly loves me I do not want to be scared of the things that happened. I did not know all the emotions was feeling were normal after my w...

Thank you, Heather! This has been hard as I dealt with my dad and ex at the same time. With the old man and grandson, it was visions as it was a nightmare to know how they were using me. With my ex, I will consider oral sex and fingering as rape since it was coerced to get me to do it as I said no. ...

Yes, thank you. How come my ex wanted me to shave my pubic hair and dress a certain way for him? I felt like I was his sexual ploy. Is this sexual abuse and how come I am starting to realize he did rape me although he did not force me to do sexual things. I am starting to process these things to mov...

For the emotional part, it felt like he was forcing me to do sexual things emotionally.

How come coercion is considered sexual assault? How come I consider myself sexually assaulted when my ex did rape me as he coerced me to do oral and have my vagina penetrated. It felt like I was being pressured, not forced.

Thank you, Heather! Today was emotional as I remembered 9/11. I forgot to take my purity ring out of the spar on I was wearing for work, but I found out. However, I lost my car keys at my college campus. I searched for three hours but it was put it in lost and found tonight. Hopefully, I can get the...

Heather, I would love to have those resources and thank you. My mom is the only person in my family that has truly been there for me. I will never thought that my dad will domestically violate me as I met him the first time. Thank you so much, Heather!

My grandpa died when I was four, and my grandma died in 1996. My dad's parents rejected me twic after my dad left me for his sexual and other motives. Although I have many parental figures, mom, and family figures, it has helped to know I have people to love me, I have a mild autism form, which make...

How come this older man targeted me and wanted to hook me up with his grandson?

Yes, it does make sense and it is understandable.

I talked about these circumstances with my counselor two days ago. The creepy guy’s grandson texted me on Sat and it was awkward at first. As we started talking, I saw we had similar interests. He said that he thinks I am stunning and he wants to meet me as he feels like he has know me all of his li...

Thank you, Sam for your advice and resources! Until this day, I will never understand why he targeted me in this situation except the fact he had power and was extremely older than me. Next time I have counseling, I will be talking about this situation since it was creepy and dangerous. I cut all co...

Thank you, Jacob! I cut off all contact with him today. He was extremely concerned about getting in trouble. I have no idea why he wanted to date a girl who was starting to enjoy freedom. I hate the fact my car was towed by him and I hope my car gets fixed soon. How come he wanted to date me? Why wa...

I had counseling with her, and everything went good. However, last week was extremely stressful as I had some car troubles and started college. On Sun, my car was towed and the guy who towed it kept telling me how beautiful I was and he said that I am the girl of his dreams. The problem is he can be...

Thank you! Is it normal to feel dissociative and numb when stressed because I have been experiencing both. I had two bad days when I started college which caused me to react badly. Do you know where I can get help because I struggle with suicide and self harm thoughts. I hate that I am relapsing, bu...

It is going well! My counselor told me that I am grieving what happened as I connected the dots to the events. Other than that, I am doing better however stressed as I started college yesterday.

In some ways, I know that I am serving my faith to my best ability. I feel disconnected and lost since I found out has happened to me. Although, it is getting better for me I still struggle with this at times. This whole month has been emotional and stressful for me. My faith has helped me get throu...

Heather, I read your post about, “Dealing with Rape”. This post should me what I need to address as I am still struggling with minimilization, dramazation, flight, and explanation. I am getting better each day as I do sometimes grief what my dad and ex did. I never knew sexual abuse/ assault would o...

Thank you, Heather for your advice! I told him that I was hot and asked him out, but he did not give me a clear reason. Besides, he said he will work it out with me. I want to give dating another round before I considered myself studious with school.

Thank you, Heather! This process has been hard since I will never deal with it when these things happened. Now, I want to effectively heal from this! I think stress of starting college triggered this for some reason. After work on Fri, I told my coworker to see if he wanted to go out with me and tol...

I do not seek my dad or my ex. However, I have been struggling with high levels of anxiety with my stress which triggers my trauma. Is this normal? How come I still feel guilty for what happened with my dad and ex?

Thank you, Heather! I have a hard time processing emotions however when I am away from people I am able to look back and remind myself that I became stronger from these traumatic experiences. I have been improving so much from the past few months.

I know some people freeze and are silent when they are in a dangerous situation. When I was sexually abused by my dad and sexually assaulted by my ex, I was silent and froze. When my dad did it, he would tell me all about his fantasies and behaviors then he attempted to masturbate right in front of ...