I hope those options we talked about in chat today are helpful.

While intercourse will, ideally, not be painful (and it's generally a good idea to take a break or do something else when you're noticing pain vs trying to push past it), some people do find it painful whether that's the first time or any other. There are a few things that could help; using more or ...

Hi there Avocadolime, I think it's ok if you'd rather not talk about the abuse situation with this guy. Some people like to have different boundaries with romantic partners (or potential ones) than with platonic friends, and some don't; either way is totally fine. If there are details you feel comfo...

I have a partner who works at a women's college and we actually talked about this issue last week! What they told me is that their school is explicitly welcoming of trans folks, including trans men - there are plenty of trans men who wouldn't be comfortable there, but their official stance is "...

The lateness of your period doesn't impact how effective the test will be; as Edith said above, as long as you followed the test directions then you can trust those results. We can't really know why your period's late or why you're noticing heavier discharge right now, but fluctuations in your cycle...

Wonderful, I'm glad you found us!

There's definitely nothing wrong with you if orgasms aren't happening during intercourse. :) There are so many cultural messages that set up intercourse as "Real" sex or the "best" kind of sex when for many people, it's not their favorite kind at all, and ultimately I think this ...

Hi there Selekitty, Not only does this happen to other people, it's actually more common than not for women to not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. We have an article that goes into this in more detail here: The Great No-Orgasm-from-Intercourse Conundrum For a good overview of orgasm ...

Like Heather, I remember who I kissed first but not many details of the kiss itself. He wasn't a particularly good partner overall, but I don't remember if he was a good kisser or not! As someone who really loves kissing I've learned that different people kiss so differently that, in a lot of ways, ...

I have had this happen before, for sure. It can happen because the partner or situation is not a good fit for me, but often I find that it's because I'm not particularly in the mood for sex at the time but trying to ignore that feeling for some reason. If I try to push past that feeling or don't wan...

You can't really manage his anxiety; that's something he has to do for himself. But it sounds like this is something you may want to spend some more time talking about (at a neutral time, not right in the middle of sex). Perhaps you can talk to him about reframing sex as something that's focused on ...

For more info on pregnancy worries & what poses a risk of pregnancy, check this article out: The Pregnancy Panic Companion Using two methods of birth control is just about as protected as you can be! We have an article that shows effectiveness levels of using two methods at once here, so you can...

When you know you haven't done anything that puts you at risk of pregnancy, then you can be sure that whatever kind of bleeding you're noticing, it isn't related to pregnancy. If you're still worried, you can take a pregnancy test.

Nope, having other food or drink at the same time isn't going to impact the pill's effectiveness at all.

Hi IthilienDude, and welcome to Scarleteen. It sounds like it might be a good idea to take a break from sexual relationships with other people, for now. Maybe this is an opportunity for you to spend some time on your own sexual self and feelings, whether that's through masturbation, fantasy, or just...

I got a lot better at discussing boundaries, giving feedback, and feeling comfortable being really enthusiastic about the things I'm most excited about. I still want to work on communication but I'm happy that I got so much better this past year.

Hi there ZannahGirl1, Negative test results - especially several of them - are a clear indicator you aren't pregnant. Pregnancy tests are extremely reliable. It is very common for students to experience some weight gain in their first semester or year of college, just from the significant change in ...

Hi AshesAshes, and welcome to Scarleteen. I think communication is going to be your friend here. Maybe you can have an initial talk with him where you mention your fears about moving too fast, and the fact that you have flashbacks sometimes, so he can be aware of the specifics if he doesn't know the...

I'm glad you made it through your family visit, as unpleasant as it was, and I'm glad you're enjoying some alone time now. As much as I do like being social, I need a *lot* of time by myself to recharge, especially after I've spent time around difficult people or in other kinds of high-stress social...

Since you already have an answer to this post in another thread, I'm going to go ahead and close this one. Please keep topics to one thread in the future as it's easier for us to keep track that way.

Oh my goodness, this show has been such a joy to watch. My favorite parts are also spoilers, so I can't get too specific, but it's a show with amazing emotional depth AND a fantastic sense of fun and goofiness and I couldn't love it more.

The time when you'd want to start using a backup method of birth control is the day you'd normally be taking pill #1 of a new pack (in other words, the first day after you're done with the placebo pills). You won't experience any retroactive risk at that point, so that's not something you need to wo...

I'm just on my way out but wanted to say that you're allowed to change your mind. You're allowed to say "I know I said I'd be there but I just can't this year." It's fine to prioritize your own well-being here. I know that doesn't make saying no to them any easier! But I wanted to say it a...

In terms of what it is, how it feels to most people, and what it means (in terms of pregnant people not having withdrawal bleeds the same way they don't have periods), it is very similar, yes.

If you can't separate your accounts you may be able to close yours, or at least withdraw all the money from it, and set one up yourself, either at the same bank or another. I am pretty sure my original bank account was attached to my parents in some way and I know I was able to close that on my own ...