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by Herstory
Tue Oct 02, 2018 4:49 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: In a relationship but developed feelings for my best friend
Replies: 10
Views: 5507

Re: In a relationship but developed feelings for my best friend

It's most frustrating when he tells me he can't relate to me when he has faced the same pressure from society to be a certain way. It's like he wants to distance himself from it and distance himself from my pain and his pain. I wish he would just listen to me and tell me that he understands because ...
by Herstory
Tue Oct 02, 2018 4:37 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: In a relationship but developed feelings for my best friend
Replies: 10
Views: 5507

Re: In a relationship but developed feelings for my best friend

He completely changed this time around because he finally dealt with a lot of the baggage that caused him to act poorly to me in the first place. Before, he was plagued by insecurities and his inability to deal with the physical, financial, emotional, and sexual abuse he suffered from his previous r...
by Herstory
Tue Oct 02, 2018 9:13 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: In a relationship but developed feelings for my best friend
Replies: 10
Views: 5507

Re: In a relationship but developed feelings for my best friend

My boyfriend and I are non monogamous. We are into group sex, but still haven't done it together yet. I'm mostly ashamed about my sexual preferences, specifically about not wanting or liking intercourse. In our last relationship, he pressured me into having it and completely discredited other forms ...
by Herstory
Tue Oct 02, 2018 8:40 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: In a relationship but developed feelings for my best friend
Replies: 10
Views: 5507

Re: In a relationship but developed feelings for my best friend

My break with my boyfriend was for a month. It's supposed to end soon. I have depression mostly due to conflicts revolving around my sexuality and it really dragged my boyfriend down, especially since he did a lot of things in a previous relationship we had that discredited my sexuality and made me ...
by Herstory
Tue Oct 02, 2018 7:33 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Why are people obsessed with intercourse?
Replies: 2
Views: 4016

Why are people obsessed with intercourse?

All my ciswomen friends always talk about how great intercourse is. I just don't get it. Even my LBT women friends tell me it's the greatest thing and they say I just haven't "found the right man" or that men are "doing it wrong". I know for a fact that's not true because I have ...
by Herstory
Mon Oct 01, 2018 8:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: In a relationship but developed feelings for my best friend
Replies: 10
Views: 5507

In a relationship but developed feelings for my best friend

I am currently on a break with my boyfriend. We’ve had a rough patch and decided it was best to separate from each other for a while to cool off. But during this time, I got extremely close to my best friend. I always found her extremely attractive and thought she was really cool, but now I feel lik...
by Herstory
Thu Sep 20, 2018 6:45 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: What's "Real Sex?" (Seriously.)
Replies: 14
Views: 30221

Re: What's "Real Sex?" (Seriously.)

I have struggled with this definition my WHOLE life and it’s honestly got me in a bad depression right now. I consider the first time I had sex to be the first time I was fingered by my ex boyfriend, but I didn’t always perceive it to be. We were in a parking lot, completely naked, and he gave me my...
by Herstory
Sat Sep 15, 2018 7:20 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I forgive a partner who shamed me about my sexuality?
Replies: 1
Views: 2228

How do I forgive a partner who shamed me about my sexuality?

Hi! I am bisexual. I am currently dating a straight man and I love him very much, but I resent him for the way he made me feel when I opened up to him about being bisexual. This happened when I first dated him (we broke up after that because I could not take the pain). He shamed me and assumed that ...
by Herstory
Thu Aug 02, 2018 1:02 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Ashamed About My Sexual Preferences
Replies: 5
Views: 3712

Re: Ashamed About My Sexual Preferences

Thank you. This is the first time anyone has ever validated my experiences and feelings about my own sexuality. I did decide to stop seeing that therapist and am currently looking for one who specialized specifically on sexuality, LGBT issues, and promotes inclusivity. I think I deserve to have some...
by Herstory
Wed Aug 01, 2018 10:27 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Ashamed About My Sexual Preferences
Replies: 5
Views: 3712

Ashamed About My Sexual Preferences

Hello! I'm writing to seek some help and insight about my feelings. I enjoy outercourse very much, but society is heteronormative and penetration focused, so much so that I feel like all the experiences I had with outercourse mean nothing. I first engaged in outercourse when I was 15 and have loved ...