Hi PoohBear, Do you feel satisfied with the sex you have been having (both masturbation and with your partner)? Do you feel as if something is missing by possibly not having an orgasm? I ask because often times an orgasm is viewed as the marker of "good sex" or pleasure when really it is s...

Hi Just18someone, I'm happy to hear that you all where able to discuss it more without things escalating but I do have to agree with you that it's not fair, nor healthy, for your roommate to take out her frustrations on you. My concern is that she will keep using this excuse if future conflict arise...

Identity is literally who or what you are, but that sounds a lot more simple than it really is. Identity is complex and never fits perfectly into a neat little box. It's constant, it's fluid, it's chosen, it's assigned, it's how you see yourself, (fortunately and unfortunately) it's how others might...

The idea of "ride or die", basically meaning you stick it out in a relationship no matter the circumstances. This never really made much sense to me, but I would try to convince myself that loving someone was always enough even if the relationship lacked trust, respect,appropriate boundari...

Sounds like you are doing a good job listening to yourself and figuring out what you need. I hope that the day gets better.

This is definitely a hard way to start the morning. It's completely understandable that something like this has put you in an emotional state. I'm so sorry. From what I have seen here, and has continuously impressed me about you, is that you have worked hard and done a great job at identifying ways ...

Hi Tigger, I hate that this has been your experience. I struggle myself with understanding how people can have so much hatred towards other, especially coming from parents, often time the people we expect to love and care for us the most. I am glad to hear that you know that you are not wrong! She i...

Hi, I'm so sorry that you experienced abuse. That is something no one deserves. I am glad to hear that you have some mental healthcare in place, is this something you would be comfortable bringing up with your therapist if you haven't already?Healing after any type of abuse is a process, one that wi...

Hi Cutewhiskas,

From what you've said it still sounds like you are feeling some uncertainty about your relationship with your boyfriend? Is that correct?

No it will not :) Masturbation will not cause any damage. But as with mostly anything, if you are feeling pain you should stop (as you should not be feeling pain). Exploring the site is a great idea. We have a ton of articles! Here are a couple that might be of interest to you: How Do You Masturbate...

Hi Emily, Just as Sam said, I think it can be helpful to focus on you and your feelings. Going off of that, I would recommend keeping the focus on your relationship with your boyfriend and not his relationship with his best friend. I understand seeing him do this things with another person can in a ...

Glad you found the link useful! And no worries, you are not over sharing! Not sure if that is even a thing here Plus, helping work through these things is what we do!

Hi Emily, I think how one experiences a "first love" will depend largely on that person. It really is going to be something that is different for everybody! Honestly, feelings about a first love will likely change as the person continues to gain life experience and form relationships. Same...

Hi Jackojacko, I think it is important to pay attention to how this made you feel. From what you are saying here, it sounds like it made you feel pretty bad or "yucky" (for lack of a better word).It's possible that crossing that boundary has made you uncomfortable and that's definitely not...

So no method is 100% effective at preventing pregnancy. For the pill the level of protection for "typical use" is pretty high at 91% in a year (or 9 out of 100 people become pregnant a year).

Hey bp12, If a pill is taken within the 12 hour window then it is not considered late or missed and is still considered proper use. But as Mo said in chat, missing a pill can impact the effectiveness. You can assume you have "typical use" protection from your birth control, which takes int...

Hi just18someone, I hate that you feel like you have to pull back from people :( It's not fair when you can't comfortably bring your "whole" self into relationships, especially with friends. Maybe this an opportunity to step out of your circle a bit to meet people who are more supportive a...

Hey Dianne, Wanted to share a few things that deal with the topic of sex and shame. We have some great resources here on our site: Undoing Sexual Shame The Sex Goddess Blue (This is a great overall piece about exploring sex and sexuality, but there is a section on sexual shame) Shame, Sex, and Silen...

That is one of the reasons a condom would slip off! You can find more info here: Condom Basics but before pulling out your boyfriend should hold the condom at the base.

If that doesn't work I suggest trying out different condoms/styles or using less lube on the inside of the condom.

Hi sg1994,

Did your boyfriend hold the base of the condom when he pulled out?

Hey radiantsolace, Welcome to the boards. It sounds like you are very considerate of your partner and want to continue to find ways to keep your relationship solid, I don't think that is silly at all. In regards to your question, I think you can share your concerns with him now. Both about the physi...

Hi Tarho, I'm headed out for the day but wanted to jump in :) I think ultimately telling your parents is your decision. You know them best but from what you have said here, they sound like they are very supportive people and love you deeply. I think that if you decided to share what you have been go...

You can find the answer regarding STIs here: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That? We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual preg...

If therapy or counseling is something that stuck out to you in the self care piece, I'm wondering does your school have a counselor that you would be comfortable discussing some of these things with?

One of the things that was suggested was to stop saying negative things about yourself here and in other spaces. That can be a hard habit to break when it is one that you are use to, so admittedly, it can be hard. A way to practice that here is by reading over what you write before you post to make ...