He does go to my college. He got in because I revised/edited most of his essays and did a lot of his application. My college was his last choice but he had crappy grades and it was the only place he got in to (just barely too). It was my top choice because it is a state school and pretty good, but h...

Hi Heather, I have many friends, but I think all of them are too timid to tell my ex off if he comes here again. Also, they are all fairly independent and I don't feel I could count on them to come when called over, as we've known each other for less than a semester. At this point, I went to my RA t...

Hi Heather. Sorry I was kind of rude to you a year ago. I was in denial about my relationship, though I know that's not an excuse. I do plan on speaking to my counselor about all my options, but my appointment is not until next Tuesday and I was rather upset when I posted this morning. Thanks for yo...

Thanks for all of the resources. I have an appointment with a counselor at the local RCC and I already did an intake. But last night, my ex was in my building, even though he knows I live there and he doesn't. He was just goofing off with friends in the lounge. I swiped myself into the building and ...

Oh, something else. I have been looking for therapists in the areas, but it's hard because I have had bad experiences in the past, and most of them don't seem equipped to deal with my issues. I was wondering if you have any suggestions for trusting a therapist and finding one who knows what they are...

I do have plans to disentangle from my family eventually. But for now, I am somewhat financially dependent on them. I am in a successful/lucrative STEM major at school though, so hopefully, independence is not far off after graduation. And I only have to go back for breaks. I'll try to give them a c...

My relationship with my family is pretty terrible. I was homeschooled and physically and emotionally abused. I have some scars and there was lots of food deprivation, insults, and isolation. My dad struggles with depression, GAD, and bulimia. He hit us a lot when we were younger, I guess he squeezed...

Thanks for your reply tomatopotato, Unfortunately, I am stuck with my parents on breaks, but I feel very safe in my dorm. I have many friends, but finding a trauma-informed therapist is a struggle. I have tried two people, and four or five others are full or unable to meet my needs. Though the colle...

Well, it is over. After nearly two years, it is finished. He dumped me in the summer. Ironically, after I started gaining confidence and independence separate from him. But now I'm upset. I feel used. I went to all his special events, I always went to his house, I baked for him, I bought him nice bi...

In response to your concerns about my internship, I work exclusively in the data management department. In other words, nerdy coding stuff, and I have no interaction with clients. Thus, I don't think that your concerns really apply. The youth group I'm in at the same organization welcomes survivors,...

You know what's actually sad? I have an internship at a rape crisis center, and while all of this was going on, I was part of a youth group at the same place that gave workshops about consent and boundaries. I've never felt comfortable going to this RCC though, because I didn't feel like my situatio...

Hello, My boyfriend and I have been going out for close to a year. We are very close and have a great, very safe sex life. However. Our relationship started off a little rocky. I had just moved from another state, and was going through my Junior year in a new school with no friends or family around....