It's kind of a general observation that things are still not so fun, even though it's not gloomy as when we were not really talking, and I miss the times when it was fun everywhere you looked at. I wish we did not all have an illness (well, he has a clean bill so far, but we're waiting on ours, and ...

I mean, I guess I could use a pep talk that it will be okay. I just wish things were better.

Wow, Heather, this is all things that my boyfriend brought up! For instance, it sounds like you all are okay with things like nudity and mutual masturbation with a person outside of the group as long as no physical contact happens. I guess. Is it still mutual masturbation if there is no physical con...

Hi! I'm sorry I took some time to answer. We had a lot of discussions and bonding back, and I had neglected a few important stuff that I had to work on. Still, I guess considering how I felt helped here, I'd like to continue this conversation. I have also read the articles you offered. I'm not entir...

Well we're trying to have discussions about these problems, but I guess I do welcome external resources on how to come with solutions. Too, it sounds like whoever decides to continue in this relationship also need to build space for partners to be able to say when they've done something sexual outsi...

I think I chose it. I went to the appointment to be told about birth control options, and was told generally about several of them and I asked questions and was asked questions. Though I went biased for hormonal IUD because my sister had gotten one two years earlier and was feeling it was a great ch...

Well... It wasn't exactly respectful to the rules, let alone the emotions of the others, that my friend got involved like that with her BFF. Acts like these were supposed to be limited to within the four of us. And therefore, the fact that my friend's BFF has a boyfriend was not supposed to be relev...

Thank you very much for your advice, and for inspiring getting the courage to have the tough talk. So... We talked. And there will have to be many more talks to come. I think the most relevant part is the one I initially came here about. The girl I'm not directly involved with confessed that she exp...

Well you see, one of them is my girlfriend, but the other is more a very close friend to me, as well as my girlfriend's girlfriend and my (ex)boyfriend's girlfriend. She and I are not romantically nor physically involved, but we loved the same persons happily and that made for a special closeness. A...

Thank you. My doctor arranged for me to re-test this week. So far, it's assumed the illness is not cleared up. As far as I can tell none of us were, except maybe him, but with communication closed... When I joined, I was given an overview on how they approached sex safety so far. So I wasn't told ev...

Hello, I am trying to explain, but in the end, my questions are, should we, for health reason, start to consider that things were not like we initially thought, and is there a way to investigate better whether he's the culprit or not. Eight months ago I joined in a triad (three people in a committed...