Hi, Heather. Yes, I’d love to hear about your experiences. Thank you for volunteering to share them with me. Before you do that, I owe you an apology. My post at the end of March was a kneejerk response. I’m allowed to have those, but I wish I hadn’t sent it, because I did ask for your thoughts. And...

I feel you, Heather, and thank you, as always. I think - you are probably right; this feels true to me. But I really don't want to go . I know we don't always get what we want, but...I don't want this relationship to have run its course. It's not because I'm afraid of being single - I probably am; I...

Hello, I’m back! And again, it’s because I have more pain than I feel like I can handle and no way to contact my therapist for another two weeks. I know this is what Scarleteen is here for, but I still feel like I ought to apologize. So…here’s the situation. The last time I asked you guys for help (...

Thank you! I’ve been sitting on this for a while, and I don’t know if there’s any more help I can ask for from you guys on this subject, at least right now. (As I said in the other post I made today, I still might need to ask for guidance, but I’m feeling like that problem might be okay right now, t...

Semi-possible? My therapist doubles as a family therapist; she makes clear that she's my resource, but she does want my parents to be able to express their feelings, too. So far, my father and I have talked using her as a mediator, but my mother and I haven't. Since he's the more receptive parent, h...

Happy 2019! Sorry it’s been so long since I responded; I had to take a long time to chew over the last question you asked. (It was surprisingly hard, and I’m still not satisfied with my response—which means it was necessary. Thank you for asking.) Thank you. It does make sense. I’m not happy about i...

I think all those ideas are good ideas, and I’d like to try them. There are a couple of kinks (!) I’d like to work out first, though. I’ve stopped telling her everything, but I originally told her about this because I hoped she would worry less if she knew I had done my research. I want to have spac...

I would be happy to share these studies with you as soon as she finds them! No results on that front yet, sadly. When life is a little less stressful with college applications, I’ll prompt her about them. No, this is definitely an exception. That’s one reason it’s been hard for me: It’s so strange. ...

I vanished off the face of the earth! Hi, I’m sorry about that. Thank you for being willing to help. The parental mandate is that my boyfriend and I can’t see each other until I come of age, because my mother won’t let me spend time with someone she “knows” is hurting me. We have nine months left, a...

Thanks! It helps a lot to hear that. My parents are really big on there being no difference between kink and BDSM, and I've felt like they've been very disrespectful in the way they've handled this, so I feel validated now. :P Thank you also for the links - I will check them out (and send #3 to my b...

Thank you! They are based on experiences. Sort of. Re: my sexual abuse question: My boyfriend and I both have trouble feeling good about sex. He reminds me of this post ( http://www.scarleteen.com/article/abuse_assault/i_worry_that_because_im_a_man_i_am_going_to_sexually_abuse_someone ), and I...man...

How do you tell the difference between sexual abuse and communication failures between people who are just learning how partnered sex works? What's the difference between kink and physical abuse? When would you say BDSM is healthy vs. abusive or toxic? (My intuition is that it's healthy as long as b...