Also just stating I use to go by Arzineus but I decided to go by my name Joe. I feel comfortable around here to use it.

Hi all, Thought I'd give a little update on how I'm doing. First off I'm doing so much better now! I have my moments of worry but it's a lot less frequent and I'm getting better at suppressing my worries. I'm starting to feel so much more comfortable with what I'm into and overall feeling much happi...

At this point I'm up for anything. I'll give it two weeks and I'll come and report on my progress. Thanks for the help this site is so helpful.

When I have thoughts, I instantly get the temptation. I guess the second one is spot on. I just feel like i have to do it. It's almost like a response I have to do. I'm not sure if it's compulsive or not.

Sorry for confusing you it's difficult to put into words.

I'm turned on but I don't want to be if that makes any sense. I want to stop sometimes but I can't because the erotic thoughts take over. A lot of the time it is compulsive.

I would love some book suggestions! For masturbation, anything can set me off may it be a thought, or something on tv. But sometimes just thinking. But once I start I can't stop. It doesn't get in the way of my personal life eg, I'd rather masturbate than go out with my friends. But I do it every da...

So after some time to think and read up a little, I can say I'm getting better. I'm don't feel as much shame as I used to, I understand that it's all about consent. I just have a few questions. 1. I know I've sort of mentioned this before but I have to masturbate at least once a day. I can't really ...

I mean sure, I'm open to anything at this point. Something I try is reminding myself that all these negative thoughts are in my head. I try my best to stay positive to block out these thoughts. Going back to my thoughts of masturbation addiction. I kept thinking about it negatively which in turn mad...

I didn't really say it correctly with therapy. I learnt how to deal with my current struggles through therapy. With this I'm more learning things about myself and the anxiety doesn't help of course. I don't really have positive examples. I guess porn in a sense, ( My parents put a lock on it because...

I feel like if I take a break I'll just keep thinking about it because that's what happened last time. Why can't I just accept what I like and get on with my life.

Maybe I should take a break from it?

I'm not sure. I feel like I've been happier trying to learn to understand it. Trying to have it not be apart of my life was very difficult, I forced myself to block it out and that resulted in quite a few panic attacks. I know that's what turns me on but I can't really stop myself from being turned ...

Yet again sorry for the late reply I needed to think. (I know dwelling on it is kinda unhealthy). I'm not sure therapy isn't generally an option for me right now. I do research to expand my knowledge. I even watched the first fifty shades to understand what not to do (I mean that was borderline abus...

Hey Sam sorry for the late reply I've been a bit busy. I'm not going to hide the fact that I'm still struggling with bdsm. I do feel very dirty after masturbating to bdsm material. I can't get the thought of what people would think if they knew I masturbated to it and it really eats me up. I keep th...

HI Siân, It doesn't generally interfere with my social life. I understand my compulsion has a lot to do with puberty and the fact teenagers can have a high sex drive (to my knowledge). I definitely think it has a lot to do with my previous guilt to bdsm which I'm starting to get a grips with, I've h...

Hi all me again. For a while I think I've been suffering from masturbation addiction. At least for a year now I've really struggled with it. I just can't stop. I have to do it at least once a day and it makes me quite miserable. I've tried asking friends on advice but they say just don't do it. But ...

Hi Siân

At the moment I'm just trying to stay positive and get on with things. If any problems come up I'm definitely going to come back here. This website is amazing.

Hi Sam. That's really put things into prospective. I definitely feel better after reading that. I just have a few questions on my mind: 1. Can I lead a normal life with this, like getting married and kids n stuff? 2. Is it a bit early to be liking things like this? 3. Should I keep this secret from ...

Hi heather, thank you for your response. In real life and girls that I'm friends with I know I'm not objectifying. But since I started worrying about all of this my brain tells me that I'm sexualising them by liking them or in other words a crush, and now I can't tell the difference if I like a girl...

Hi Mo! First thank you for your kind words they made me feel a bit better. I definitely understand where your coming from. I worry a lot of what people would think like my parents and friends would think if they knew about this. This situation I've gotten myself into has definitely warped my percept...

Hi all me again. I've thought on it for a few days and I think I've made things worse. So me being me I decided to look up "is it normal to like seeing women tied up" and comments I saw have made me scared of myself. Things like "I hope I'm not your girlfriend" or "creep&quo...

I don't want to objectify women which I kept doing.

Hi, sorry I took a while to reply. Most of it is definitely shame. But also I hate being constantly sexually aroused. It happens all the time and it drives me nuts. I'm not really sure how to word this but I can't control when I get aroused, it can happen at any time in the day even from just my tho...

Um, I have had therapy in the past and it has worked to an extent. I struggle to use that advice in other circumstances if you know what i mean. I refuse to use medication because I don't believe it's good for mental health. Sadly I can't really get therapy, I don't want to tell my parents any of wh...

Hello there! I'm a 14 year old guy. For the past few months I've been pretty much depressed and completely creeped out by myself and I'm out of ideas on what do. I really just need someone to talk so I can go back to enjoying life. (Quick Note: I suffer from GAD so i understand a lot of this may jus...