Thank you I shall try, I don’t know why I find it so hard to talk to him. I just wished he saw things from my point of view.

I certainly feel like he doesn’t really care (he probably does or I’m hoping) but I don’t feel it. But I feel like engaging this conversation will open a lot more doors on things he needs to open up about too. Like if I’m feeling down he doesn’t ask why just that he’s there and he’ll support me but ...

Hi me again, I’ve just had a chat with him (he’s gone home now) about what he likes in the bedroom and what he doesn’t like etc, I used Christmas as an example to dress up so it didn’t look out of the blue so I said is there anything that you would like me to do? Like outfits wise and he said he lik...

Thank you I shall try and talk to him, I don’t know why I feel like this but you’re right there might not be a reason for me to worry, I’ll let you know it goes. Thank you

Hi heather, i would love to make this work but given what you’ve said about intimacy now to think of it I think I’m partly to blame for him not talking, I get really embarrassed about anything with sex, like I hate movies with sex scenes in them, any sex jokes, or anything related to sex I just feel...

Hi heather I feel happy with him and he treats me better than I ever could believe, I can’t imagine my life without him. We laugh a lot and I know I can be myself around him, we know how to make each other laugh! I do feel appreciated but it’s hard to be completely sure as we don’t live together (ye...

I understand there’s not just me on here that needs help and others may need more urgent help I don’t mind waiting I’m just glad someone is taking their time to help me how ever long it takes

Yeah that’s absolutely fine I’ve given you a lot of information and I’m sorry for going on. Let me know if you have questions about anything, and thank you for your time and help Heather!

I’m really new to long term relationships so I don’t really know what’s right and what’s wrong, I remember when I first said that I were threatened he said that no one would talk to me like that ever again and then he said that his ex as cheated on him after 3 years, but we never spoke about our pas...

Sorry I’ve been absent for days, we first met at his pub where he works, he used to work on the bar and we got talking and decided to have a date together. I wasn’t 100% comfortable because I gave in with boys and men after my past but I felt pressured by family and friends, and decided to give a tr...

Wow although it was hard to read it does make sense, although he is really sweet and I know he cares about me it’s much more than chocolates believe me I do feel safe around him but he’s not the best at thinking things through and I think he forgets what I’ve been through and his memory is really ba...

Hi Alice yes our sex life has been great actually we’re taking our time and enjoying role play more and he’s taking time to ask what I like and we’re trying out new stuff, so everything is great on that level however I’m still struggling to let go of my past experiences which I’ve now put it down to...

I just want to clarify that I spoke first about sex to him for him to make that reply saying how sex made me feel after my previous experience and he said he couldn’t be with me without sex and I remember just freezing cos it hurt me but I can’t expect him to hurt because of what happened to me. Ps ...

Hi heather thank you for replying I don’t feel as pathetic knowing that it’s normal to feel the way I am I just feel like it was such a long time ago and I know he’s probably forgot all about it but yes my current boyfriend of 4 years sometimes doesn’t think before he speaks, he sometimes says that ...

Hi I was on here a while ago about another subject but from a little research about my feelings towards sex it seems I’ve had previous sexual abuse?! Never psychically just emotional, but It sounds really dramatic and I feel quite ashamed to believe that. But my ex boyfriend threatened to rape and b...

Yes thank you I’ll start planning what to say and I don’t think he’d push if I said no at least that’s what I hope but he is a good person I just don’t think he sees it from my point of view and I guess that’s my own fault for not speaking up. But hopefully that’ll change soon I’ll keep you updated....

Hi Sam thank you for your time, it makes sense when someone else explains it to you. I guess I felt like I was too pathetic and just wished I got on with it. But to hear that it’s understanble how I’m feeling and to try and help, makes me feel really optimistic and relieved if anything. I would love...

Hi Alice you’re more than welcome to jump in and help, and thank you for doing that. I’ve had bad experiences with previous boyfriends especially with sex. I didn’t do anything with them apart from my first time which was a one night stand (not intended) and I didn’t hear anything for days and then ...

I do it more for his benefit more than my own because I think he is normal and like most guys they can’t go more than a few days without it, but we both have different jobs and body clocks so he comes home around midnight and I’m mostly asleep because I’m up at 6 everyday, so I feel like I have to h...

and To be perfectly honest I thought fantasies were a myth, I mean it’s only recently I’ve been looking at women’s fantasies for advice but the thought of them just made me feel sick and angry if anything. I just don’t understand it

I feel like I can’t talk to him about it as he’s a few years older than me and had a lot more experience, I feel quite embarrassed about it all to be honest. I feel I connect more in an emotional way when we’re having sex which is more important to me than physical pleasure but I feel like I’m lying...

Hi I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and I thought at first it’s because I was very inexperienced and also I was threatened to be raped by my previous boyfriend because I refused to have sex with him. So I don’t know if because of that I have trouble getting aroused with my boyfriend but I...

Hi I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and I thought I first it’s because I was very inexperienced and also I was threatened to be raped by my previous boyfriend because I refused to have sex with him. So I don’t know if because of that I have trouble getting aroused with my boyfriend but I ...