hi everyone, i'm having a bit of a dilemma in my relationship and am looking for insight on the matter. i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, and we even spent the last two semesters dorming together at our university. the experience of living together helped us identify rough spots int...

hey everyone, so it's been awhile since i've been on scarleteen and i hope everyone here is doing well and taking care :) a lot has gone on in my life, such as now having a new job as a pharmacy technician that i really enjoy and having turned 18. i took my first dose of testosterone subcutaneously ...

hi everyone, this is something i've been feeling pretty conflicted about recently. to start, my boyfriend and i have been together for roughly 2 years total. from around december 2018-april 2019 we were broken up and seeing different people for a time, but came back together in april as an open rela...

hi all,

i was reading about the different barrier protection methods and was wondering: what makes internal condoms less statistically effective than external condoms?

i would like to preface this with stating that i am grateful for the fact that i have a job during this time that has brought job insecurity to millions. normally i have no complaints about the company for which i work. it has historically had a great track record for caring for its employees and of...

oh i see. thank you

maybe, but i still think it would be worth telling my doctor

still nothing so i will be taking a test within the next couple of days. for the past two days or so it now hurts to press down on my uterine region and that makes lying down on my stomach painful too. i’m thinking if this isn’t pregnancy it could be something ovarian and will tell my doctor

horriblegoose - thank you, i’ll do that! hopefully it’s just late, it tends to jump around a bit in cycle length from time to time. mo - i feel fine about it, we did talk and it was my idea and we were both aware of risks. currently the best i think i can do now is not worry about things i don’t kno...

hi whizdom, i think it's also worth noting that sometimes municipal water can contain high amounts of residual chlorine from the purification process, which can cause irritation, particularly on mucous membranes or other areas of the body in which the skin is particularly thin. this could explain th...

hi all, last week my boyfriend and i had unprotected "intercourse" (quotations because he only put it in me for a few moments because we wanted to see if it really does feel better without a condom) and as of today my period is a day late. i'm aware that theoretically that was a risky acti...

hi, this is normal for a lot of people who are younger or who aren't sexually active. this was my experience for a really long time and what worked well for me was to work up to it when i felt like it. if you make it a chore / something you feel you have to do, you'll be too tense and it will be har...

welcome back heather : D

i think my parents are in different boats when it comes to sex. so for my mom, i think she would need to understand that sex isn't "dirty" or "nasty" (some words she's used for it before) and be comfortable herself talking about it. i think she's extremely uncomfortable around se...

it only really happens once he strokes the g spot. today it didn't happen because he wasn't doing it very roughly, but it takes a bit of roughness to make it feel really good so

it doesn’t hurt at all, just feels like something is getting pushed up that isn’t supposed to. i haven’t said anything, i just ask to stop whenever it happens and we do something else. he’s never said anything to make me feel bad / self conscious so i’d say the weirdness and confusion is probably th...

hi, i had this same issue for the longest time with my boyfriend up until a few months ago. as far as vaginismus goes, that's something you'll have to see a doctor for - they can test for sure and help you out from there. but in my experience, a lot of it was the underlying emotional battles we were...

hi all, my boyfriend and i recently discovered how amazing it feels to finger me. however the past two times whenever he does it, i hear this kind of crunchy (??) sound, almost like bone is getting moved around and it really freaks me out, the feeling accompanied by it freaks me out too. i would exp...

hi heather,

yeah it did start later that day lol. everything's all good but i'll bring it up to my doctor when i see her for my check up in january. thank you! :>

hi, it's a great step forward to be able to own up to and confess ways in which you may have hurt someone, especially a significant other. i think a good way to keep on this right track is to identify and confront what the source of these harmful behaviors may be before you get into your next relati...

hi all, recently my periods have become somewhat irregular. last week it was around 6 days late, and as of today it is 10 days late (meaning this is, according to a tracking app i have, day 43 of my cycle). i believe it is because i have begun exercising intensely compared to how i used to - i've be...

hi sam, the body parts are definitely the main factor. i’m okay with intercourse between my parts and his, because it’s easy for me to just melt into what’s happening without having to look or think about it. but i feel as though with oral my whole attention will be on what’s going on down there rat...

hi everyone, an issue that has arisen recently is my own self-consciousness and dysphoria around receiving oral sex. my boyfriend (who is a cis gay guy) has told me a couple times he’d be willing to do oral on me, and this is something i want, but i’ve found, at least when thinking about it, that dy...

hi heather,

we talked about it and he said he'd be willing to go to the health center and request a reprint of his results. once i get over this pesky cold we'll have a longer conversation like you suggested, i think you're right. thank you for your help

it was an antibody screening test, so non-confirmatory wouldn’t make sense. i asked him why he wouldn’t keep the papers, he said it makes him uncomfortable and he wouldn’t want them lying around where anybody could read them, and that the entire medical setting was stressing him out. i’m going to ma...