Hi! So lately I have been using condom as a form of contraceptive. When I put on the condom, I realized it was upside down, fixed it, and used it again instead of throwing it away. I was not concerned about STI as I only have 1 partner (and my gf too) and I know that indirect contact cant result in ...

Hello Sam, No, I have not spoken to a healthcare provider. Initially, I thought that every uncircumsized man has the same problem, until I know that they do not. Anyway, thank you for your response Sam, appreciate it. Before I speak to a healthcare provider, would you mind to kindly refer this threa...

Hello, I have an ultra sensitive penis (uncircumsized) and I do not mean it in a good way. Rather, I'd describe contact with my penis (not the foreskin) to be painful, especially when it's dry. Is this normal? I read somewhere that this happens because my penis is not getting enough exposure since I...

Hi Sam, Thank you for your response. To you, and to anyone who sees this, I am in no way trying to offend or have anything against disabled child, sorry for poor choice of words. I haven't read any of your books or connected to any mental healthcare provider. Thanks for reminding me. After this post...

Hi Amanda! Thanks for answering and asking. Generally, I am really really anxious person. Pregnancy scare is just one of them. If my gf doesn't reply for a certain time when she's out of country, I would search up the crime rate of the country she's at. If my gf doesn't reply when she's at home, I'd...

Hey Scarleteen. This is my first question that isn't related to pregnancy scare. yay! Ok, so I had been imagining a scenario where I am married to my GF, and really trying to have a baby. Obviously, I'll have sex as much as possible to increase the chance. Now, sex can be tiring (intercourse) if don...

Got it!

Thank you for clarifying.
You can close this thread now.

Thanks really, you guys always know how to help me with my anxiety!

Please refer to the post above this. It is the latest as I made some edit. Sorry it was in quote.

Hello Mo, Thank you for your reply. Regarding my anxiety about pregnancy, it's much much better ever since I found this site. As you can see, my last post is over a year ago, that indicates that I haven't had some extreme pregnancy anxiety for a long time. FYI, I haven't relied on any other website...

Hello Mo, Thank you for your reply. Regarding my anxiety about pregnancy, it's much much better ever since I found this site. As you can see, my last post is over a year ago, that indicates that I haven't had some pregnancy anxiety for a long time. FYI, I haven't relied on any other website/source f...

Hello, I have a question. Recently, I ejaculated on my GFs stomach. I did not want to use tissue to wipe the ejaculate because of the smell that it would leave in the bin. So, I asked her to wash them in the shower. Now, my question is, is this safe? Could the sperm have been transferred to her vagi...

Dear Heather, Thanks for all your support. I am really blessed to have found this website. Having explored tons of website about sexuality (blame anxious-john for that), I think this is the best website, no bullshit. I'm sure many people would agree with me on this. The credibility, the customer sup...

Dear Heather, Sorry for late reply. Thanks for your response. I'd really appreciate it if you can recommend me some apps/books/sources to manage my anxiety. I notice that my anxiety does not come from guilt alone, but also from all those false information and fake stories on the internet. Anyway, is...

Hi Heather,

Sure, may you please kindly share your thought regarding this?

Thank you, I really appreciate it.

hi Al, Have you talked with your partner about this at all? - My partner would get irritated and saying that I was overthinking (I dont blame her though because I kept asking the same question over and over again like "are you sure you wiped your hand before touching your...?" Have either ...

Hello Al, I just cant seem to take my mind of it DURING the 'act'. This makes the 'act' less enjoyable. I just need some more assurance that those stories where people claim to have seen their friend or themselves got pregnant by doing things that CANNOT result in pregnancy (e.g. manual sex + cum) i...

Does Scarleteen actually believe in stories of pregnancy with the folllowing: - Manual sex + precum - Manual sex + cum - Dry humping Or is Scarleteen certain that it is just some made-up/fake stories? Actually, has there ever been a REAL case (e.g. confirmed by reputable entity) where women got preg...

Hi Al, Thank you for your response. Also, thanks for asking. Yes, me and my GF are sexually active. We are extremely careful with our act (to avoid pregnancy),therefore, we never engage in sexual activity without our clothes (undies) on. Think dry humping or indirect manual sex (over clothes). To be...

First of all, sorry for the title, I am not good at making one. Second, I am sorry to have to ask this here because I couldn't find the answer to this question anywhere. Probably because it is too specific and not quite general. Here it goes: It is a known fact that semen cannot go through clothes. ...

Thanks Heather.

I will try to read the article you suggested.

Thanks again to you and Jacob for being very patient with me and my questions.

Dear Jacob, Thank for your response. "I think one factor here is that semen (or semen+sperm if you will) isn't just a liquid... like lots of organic things, it's a bunch of solids and liquids suspended together. Sperm cells individually are delicate, mechanically and chemically... if they break...

Dear Heather, Thank you for your response. I have an additional question which is quite related to what I asked before. So I saw this statement on one of scarleteen's blog. http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/clairep/2012/10/25/dry_humping_freakout "They [sperm] need the properties of semen in order...

If a woman has a 34 days cycle, it means she ovulates at day 20 (33-14).

Now, let' say she has sex on day 7, wouldn't it be very safe?
Why is there claim like "there is no such thing as 'safe days'"?

I was wondering could actually go wrong? What's the chance?

Thanks in advance.

"sperm needs the property of semen in order to move" - I was wondering if 'vaginal fluid' can REPLACE 'semen' as a transport for sperm? In other words, can sperm still move if there is no 'semen' present but there is 'vaginal fluid' present? I'm quite aware that the scenario I mentioned ab...

Hi Sam, Thanks for the response, I really appreciate it. for the 2nd question, the scenario that I imagined was similar to the first question, contact via fingers. I thought that contact with ejaculate (even via finger) poses a pregnancy risk whereas contact with pre-ejaculate (via finger) doesnt. I...