Hello Siân

I think I am good for now. I'll check back in if I need to. Thanks for all your help

Hello Siân Thank you for those links, they do look interesting I will read them when I have the time. It feels great to have that off my chest. I hate holding things in, it makes me feel unwell. I do want to remain friends, because I do think he is a good person really but that he hasn't really thou...

Hello Siân I have sent him a message outlining my problems with what he was saying, I took time to stress that while I think he is a good person, what he is saying is still very problematic. I asked him why he doesn't believe the other person and what his rational is. He hasn't responded yet but he ...

Hi there Siân. In an ideal world, I guess I would like to understand his rational for this behaviour, and to get him to understand that while he may not intend to come across biphobic, many people will walk away with that perception because even if he has nothing personal agasaint bisexual people it...

Hi Sam W, thank you for your input. I guess the main reason is for this that I do want to talk about this again but I am kinda worried about their reaction. My main problem is that I don't understand why they are behaving like this when they know it isn't okay. I don't understand what their rational...

Back a few months I was talking to a friend about a guy (whom I will call Alex) I thought was cute. My Friend (whom I will be calling Tim) said that Alex was gay. I told that Alex was bi. Tim's response was that he did not believe Alex because Alex set off his 'gaydar.' I said that was a horrible th...

Hi Heather I'll try out your suggestion with mattress covers for people with incontinece, can't hurt to give them a shot. What was the name of the product Lunapads used to make? Something waterproof would probably be best. I will talk to my doctor about this again. I just don't see how this could be...

Okay, so two years ago now I asked a question on here about needing to pee after orgasm and it was suggested I talk to my doctors, after talking about it with my healthcare providers they assured me everything was normal and that it would go away in time. You can read that question here (http://www....

Hi Heather

Thank you. I think it would best to wait until late January before deciding anything hopefully I will be hired in the new year

Okay, so recently I have moved to a new country to pursue a career as a teacher. Due to coming here largely on my own I've had to build a new social circle and make new friends. Which isn't a bad thing but it can get lonely. While I have made a few friends here already there is one girl in particula...

@Redskies Thank you for your feedback. I agree with you. I don't really understand how my brother can approach a woman without some for of communication, even if that communication is not verbal it is still there. Personally if me being forward takes the mystery out of it for someone maybe I would b...

@Kristy Thank you for your feedback, you've summed it up rather nicely. I think that really is the case here. He wants something complete different to what I want. I want a committed relationship whereas he wants to just have fun. Both of which are fine. I guess I just felt rather put off by what he...

I completely agree, that's probably why his relationship always fizzle out because he's not open with what he wants and feels but you have to let people learn these things on their own.

Hi Mo Thank you for the feedback. I think the problem is my brother's relationships have always been casual. He meets girls he typically does it on nights out. These things don't tend to last very long. I think he was talking more about flirting with women on nights out then dating. But if I wanted ...

Okay so this might so a little odd but recently my brother and I were chatting about dating apps. I had mentioned using them and even meeting up with people on them. But nothing ever came of these meet ups. I did it safely and in public. I told someone where I was going before hand. My brother then ...

Hi Sam W

Thank you. I guess you're right that I will only share what I feel comfortable sharing and if it is an issue of safety.

Also Thank you Mo for your help.

Hi Mo I can see what you are getting at. Someone who is so averse to being with me simple because it will be a first for me maybe not suitable to for me in the first place. I suppose part of it really is that old fear of rejection. Yes, if someone does that it means that that they are not someone I ...

Okay if you have read my other posts to this site you know that my lack of a sexual history has been something that has been rather stressful to me at times. From talking to people such as friends, my counselor and people on this board I've gotten a lot more accepting and relaxed about it. There is ...

Hi Kaizen I can see what you're getting at but in the first situation you're still making it happen by having conversations and making plans etc-I suppose my main problem with saying it ''just happens'' is that it implies to me that you are receptive and passive in that process rather then an active...

Thank you, next time someone tells me to just wait until it 'happens' I will tell them it doesn't work like that. To be fair this advice is usually offered with good intentions but that doesn't change the idea being wrong

Hi Heather I understand what as you're saying is that if you want a relationship you do have to look for one but you shouldn't let it be your whole life to the detriment of other things-it's about balance between the two. Am I getting that right? What I meant by chemistry was that there is romantic ...

Okay often when I talk about finding a boyfriend or girlfriend people will often give me this piece of advice 'don't go looking for a relationship, it happens when you're not expecting it, it's an organic process' usually this is the idea or else it is some variation of it. This is usually followed ...

Thank you Mo, that clears things up.

Okay this might sound like a weird question but I've heard of people using an internal/female condom during anal sex. I brought this up at a sex education workshop recently and two people said it was a horrible idea due to the fact that the internal/female condom might disappear up inside a person's...

Thank you Sam W

I will bring this up with mu counsellor at our next session.
So most likely my mom has said these things and intentionally gaslighting me. I see thank you the article. I'll have a think about it between now and my next session.