yes, that makes sense. Thank you for that "mantra" The other question I have: I have reconnected with a past lover from many years ago(we kept in touch), and while I deeply respect them and happy to see them (to have another focus to enjoy myself ; as part of self care to get through an in...

Thanks so much. Would appreciate some words/comments on the following: 1) How to handle or deal with the celibate status? How to work out the fear of "what's next" / ie. unknown. 2 ) Recognizing that thinking what-if I did XYZ instead of decision A would have better outcomes that I could c...

[quote="coolcats222"]Thank you so much for your kind help. Some reflections: 1) The thought of being celibate is an interesting one. I would like to take a break from sexual relations involving another person - yet I am afraid what or who will be next? how long will i remain this year? how...

Thank you so much for your kind help. Some reflections: 1) The thought of being celibate is an interesting one. I would like to take a break from sexual relations involving another person - yet I am afraid what or who will be next? how long will i remain this year? how will it seem with another pers...

Thank you for your response. I didn't actually progress my feelings very well and was surprised at how intensely I actually felt in the presence of all of reminders of the bond with the new person. What I did well that I think helped me immensely: -No blame or judgement on what he could have done be...

In otherwords, I am just simply accepting their lack of consent or interest without making it about myself or my insecurities.

1) A sexual partner I have had has decided to change our relationship and withdrawn consent. The reason doesn't matter (it involves meeting another individual). Surprisingly, I don't feel rejected or taken it personally. This is strange for me as I tend to take such actions very personally and a ref...