not stupid. It's something that I ought to look as as "career/professional selfcare like brushing teeth" hehhe

Update: Checking email done. I'd say that my anxiety is always telling me that there's something remaining ---> putting it off day and day over will create more bigger problems. Things that could be solved with some emails and apologies --- if left undone-- > lead to bigger issue. I do feel that my ...

Thank you for providing support here. I'm facing some more anxiety about all this and just needed a therapeudic space to write and be supported (but even just writing and sharing is helpful to me!) Basically procrastinating on finances is understandle and happens to all of us - I am realizing that p...

hello - all. I'm back in this warm fuzzy "everything is going to be alright" corner of the WWW to help me get through another step . Thanks for being here -'i'm re-reading the posts and answers above so i can log online, check my balance, call the bank and get on this thing.

I didn't do it all in one day , but giving myself some positive acknowledgement that I did somethings to generate cash flow etc --helps motivate me. Thank you guys, it's an on-going process. Having Heather too chime in and say she is struggles with this too and uses Mint made me feel ok, I am not al...

Al - I brought my cuddly teddy bear and a hot tea as I tackled this. I gave myself some positive re-inforcement that I can actually do this and I am taking action What I have done so far: MY WINS! COOL-CAT's SMART MOVES 1)Talk to my student loan company. It was scarying but I did it! Got all the inf...

*not just directed to Heather, directed to all awesome volunteers and people* Hi Heather, I know you are out for this month (hooray for time to focus on important things without distraction!) and its' been a long time. I appreciate that you all can be here as a warm fuzzy corner of the www0world. I ...

Thank you Al.
Great reminder and great tip. I will need it more frequently this year

hello guys- Uff, thank you for that. I appreciate you guys being here. I closed a bank account and opened a fee-free one b.c not having a minimal balance was costing me. Now, I have to make sure that all the credit card new accounts are connected to new account. I have incurred some late fees and et...

Hello, I know this is a bit outside score of Scarleteen in away and I don't want to take away resources/attention of volunteers, but you guys just have a great way of nuetralizing/ helping. I am kind of broke at the moment as I delve into school commitments. It makes me anxious to look at my bank ac...

Thanks guys. <3 MUCH MUCH APPRECIATED -- *High five*
Al especially your tips about how to deal with anxiety provoking things - I checked the email --> nothing.

THANKS GUYS. I feel fine, not scared and just O.K! I can do this :-) and have a plan no matter what happens. I am amazed at how opening about and sharing this issue really helped me de-stress and see a new POV! :) I had a really nice chat with one of the most sympathetic librarian who was very suppo...

Thanks Heather and Al. Aside from the website info -- just having a place where I know there are people who are being supporting and validating my preception/needs is HUGE in toning down the anxiety/feeling of fear/impending sense of doom :roll: :D :lol: I really appreciate that . It truly means a l...

thanks Al and Heather. I did call the DOJ, talked to their ADA specialist, who gave me good info and said I could file an online complain. I would rather meditate this with the library at the moment, but so far, I feel fine, OK, and will utilize Al's strategy for checking email Keeping my study goin...

Great validation that I am not alone or unique in this and great tips to handle it <3

Hi Heather and rest of supportive peeps here: Thanks for your time in taking time to read and respond to this. That really means a lot. My GOAL is to get through the first few days of the week and check my email for their response later on the week. I wrote an email + 5 page report describing my con...

Hi Al - THANKS for ur answer. If outside equipment isn't allowed, then others shouldnt be allowed to bring thier laptops or w/e right? I need it due to my eye condition. The thing is that I don't want to know about any other policies. I just want a place to study and do work and not be bothereD. I'm...

I am a visitor at local community college library that is open to visitors. Unfortunately I have very very low vision when it comes to read fine print (genetic, so high that even contacts/corrective lenses will not help). So given the electronic nature of things, I have to use two large monitors in ...

in the end, this kind of non-relationship should have ended long time and time doens't or didn't change their mind or anything. I literally always felt in the same place: unsure of what relationship if any I had with this person, and just simply not really a priority. It seems like it was same patte...

I think frankly im jealous they are enjoying their best life with someone while i'm..... any thing to say to that? or just suck it up as part of human experience and know that things will get exciting for me too

Thank you Sam. W. for your comments. I think in some ways, i am just realizing that i was in a @Q#$@# situation for many years. it was never real intimacy just sex and I twisted and turned in my mind to make it an itimacy. We all had to do what we had to do to survive a particilar time. Aghh..yes. M...

I guess that I had this story that i was telling myself that this person wouldn't meet anyone good, or good connection adn then suddenly they will see that Im good /great and by that time I would have made a bit strides in my work toward becoming a professional...and all will be well. Now I can't co...

I am a bit ashamed to say this, but the wrongful belief I have is that I am jealous or feel that someone finding another person is somehow a reflection that there's nobody left for me, or that nothing good will happen in my life or simply that i am not good enough. It's very possible that i can find...

I had a bad relationship this December and finally got over it. I went to see another long-timer sex-friend/lover (~7 years on/off) earlier this year who is no longer interested b.c he's dating women that are more suitable. So I was never suitable in that way. I feel due to professional/academic dem...

Thank you Heather.

That's very good and helpful. I am writing a long letter so yes, that's a very good and direct way to handle it.
4 hour of studying and 1 hr of this is much more direct way to handle then doing work outs and "just stop thinking about it".