So you used condoms and withdrawal? You can look up the effectiveness of that combination in this article:
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexua ... ol_with_a_

I don't have a lot of words for what happened. They all seem to come up short. But I want to offer my heartfelt sympathy and support to all those affected. I'm so, so sorry.

Hate crimes suck to high heavens.

They sell crop tops as underwear for girls nowadays, maybe you could get her some? They're not bras, so they are suitable for young girls, but may still make her feel more at ease as she'll have some more coverage.

Hey there,
Sorry to hear you're feeling so down on yourself. Is there anything you can do right now that might make you feel a tiny bit better? Maybe a specific song you can listen to, or a video of your favourite animal that you can watch?

Tarho, I hope you don't mind me butting in. I want to tell you that while it's not a rule, most of us find that the age of people who we feel attracted to shifts over the years. Often, it more or less keeps pace with our own age. It's not something that happens for everyone, but it's something that ...

Glad to hear it.

As for how serious it is: Well, it's clearly serious enough to make you feel pretty rotten. And no one should be made to feel that way.

Then that's a sign that they are not a safe person for you to be around, and it's best to stay away from them as much as you can.

I'd try to keep it very simple and clear, and make a statement about yourself, not about the other person (because that might be seen as an accusation, and they might get defensive). How about 'I don't like it when you do that'? Would that work? Everyone has the right to like or not like things that...

People who haven't met me before often think I must be a lesbian. It's probably because I have short hair and a pretty butch clothing style. I don't mind one bit, because I'm fine with people thinking that about me... even though it's not true at all!

I also really love Sam, because he plants all those trees and also has a plan for his future other than "um, well, uh, I'll just ride around brandishing my sword and, um, be cool." Yes! I loved that too. It can't all just be swordfights for evermore, normal life needs to recommence sooner...

I didn't really see anything wrong with female characters who were kind, nurturing, peaceful, gentle, etc. Neither did I. But I could not really relate to them. And yes, I felt disappointed that Eowyn returned to her 'natural role' in the end. To me, it felt like a forced choice, not a happily made...

Coconut oil is soothing and mildly antifungal, but you'll need to ask your doctor whether it will make your infection harder to diagnose.

You are not wasting anyone's time here. You are always, always welcome to come here when you need to vent. You haven't heard from me before but I'm very sorry to hear you are feeling so low and afraid! If I could I'd give you a big hug (if you wanted one) and a big mug of tea and let you talk all yo...

I'd first of all stop smiling when he does that, because that is someting that tells him that you are enjoying it. So you are sending out a signal which is the opposite of what you mean. That's gotta be confusing. Furthermore, even sensitive people should be able to cope with it if someone tells the...

If you can't see the string and can't feel the tampon, but you can feel your cervix, then I'd say the chance that it's still inside your vagina is very small indeed. Is there any change that you may have lost it, for example during a bowel movement?

Yes, a general doctor should be able to do this. They should have enough knowledge of your anatomy. So I'm assuming it did not help when you sat in the bath and used your fingers to get water into your vaginal canal to wet the tampon? Sorry to hear it. Then yes, going to your doctor is a good soluti...

And anyway, why is it society's business what I do with my body in this regard? It's not like all these strangers whose judgement I fear are having sex with me. It's not like they're in the room watching us when my boyfriend and I are together. Really, the only person their judgement affects is the...

Great point! You could say the same about what we learn about sexual roles. It's always about 'penetrating' and never about 'engulfing', which can just as easily be seen as an active role! No one ever told me that in heterosexual intercourse, it's not a given that one party is active and the other i...

Sure! Who else but Scarleteen?
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodie ... th_control

I get them too. I don't really care for the way they look, so I remove them with tweezers. It's never caused any problems so far.

Well, for what it's worth: my experience was clearly positive. I used Mirena for ten years and had no bad side effects (some acne on my back, but that was all). For several years, I did not menstruate at all which I thought was great. Insertion was no fun, but my second time around, the doctor gave ...

(Oops! Sorry about that, Sam, I must have overlooked in which area it was posted.)

You could link her to some great Scarleteen articles like these: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/relationships/ready_or_not_the_scarleteen_sex_readiness_checklist http://www.scarleteen.com/article/politics/dont_want_to_have_sex http://www.scarleteen.com/article/relationships/whoa_there_how_to_slow...

sqlpecan, I haven't responded to you before but I've been reading your story. I'm so glad to hear that you are feeling better now! It sounded like he was not doing you any good. You are right: not being in a relationship is a whole lot better than being in one with someone who is bringing you down. ...

I'd personally start with lowering the stakes. a lot. I would not talk to him about starting a relationship, I'd simply say 'So, I was wondering... wanna go out some time?' and see how he reacts. It's much less loaded than making this about a relationship, it's just about possibly going out, there's...