yeah, that is accurate to say. it's not like he's reciprocating at all, he touches me in sensitive areas and kisses me and praises me. but what i'm trying to say is that i simply crave more orgasms. oh performing oral doesn't feel like a chore or something that has to happen for the day to be good, ...

hey, thank you for taking the time to read. don't sweat it, you are a busy person.

i guess another thing i should've added into the post, was when he tried to comfort and apologize to me i said a few times "it doesn't matter." might be an important detail, i don't know

but thank you!

this is a bit of both of a vent-y and wanting advice sort of post-- mainly vent. sometimes... i am unsure of what to do with my feelings and confusion, and this place really helps. you guys are awesome. a warning-- this is a little long, i'm mostly rambling and i'm worried that i have acted wrongly,...

(sorry for the late reply! thanks for replying though, btw!) yeah, i've heard lots of criticism from tumblr. like i said, i get it-- older partners are usually more experienced and more likely to take advantage of their younger partner, ESPECIALLY the older the partner is. we're both just as experie...

(before i get started, i just want to thank those who run this website by helping others and providing extremely helpful resources and articles. they really do help, i'm learning quite a lot) hi there! i'm a 17 year old nb fem-aligned person in a relationship with a 21 year old cis man. we're both b...

you’re right about that, very much so. “it was an accident/mistake/etc” does enable victim blaming and other terrible things. sorry if it sounded like i came off that way, i promise i didn’t intend to— rather, i’m just simply afraid of making mistakes and crossing boundaries without realizing. thank...

you’re right about that, very much so. “it was an accident/mistake/etc” does enable victim blaming and other terrible things. sorry if it sounded like i came off that way, i promise i didn’t intend to— rather, i’m just simply afraid of making mistakes and crossing boundaries without realizing. thank...

he even told me himself he felt a little bit pressured in regards to making a decision whether or not to orgasm, i worry that i pressured him to change his mind. (though, he said he felt more pressured by himself then me, which i didn’t quite understand) he did give me a clear, and firm enthusiastic...

sorry if this sounds really incoherent but i’m sort of in the middle of a breakdown, i honestly don’t know what to do with myself and i’m generally feeling immense self loathing and hatred. i probably might end up leaving details out, but i’m just sort of writing this in the spur of the moment. i re...

i know scarleteen really doesn't offer help for mental health and all that, but i hope venting is okay. even though i've decided that what happened was simply a boundary crossed at the time-- all the way back from january or so-- i lack the confidence to believe that in way and i guess and it's simp...

for sure, if there was a whole pattern of these behaviors, it would be different. i definitely don’t think this boundary violation had malicious intent... he just in the moment got all touchy kissy feely or whatever and it was too much for me at the time, and we haven’t discussed boundaries prior to...

i think his response was good enough for me, him showing the remorse and apologizing was very comforting to me at the moment. it felt genuine, and this was a one time thing that happened months ago. i just really want to stop thinking about it because it’s been bothering me on and off for a while. l...

coercion includes asking someone again even after they said no. which is what happened to me— but i only said no because, again, i didn’t want his penis to touch me, which it didn’t. the thing i feared most did not happen! i don’t think he guilt tripped me or forced me, but honestly, an answer for t...

hi there, i'm confused. i know that coercion means to use force or manipulation with a sexual act even though the other person continues to say no. but i have a situation that kinda goes in the grey area? some things worth noting - have ocd and anxiety, so i tend to worry and overthink too much - i'...