im not sure what you mean by misgivings. but last summer we talked about living together temporarily but it didn't work out for different reasons. it was a small cabin space and he was kind of far from home than he has ever been. he felt unsafe there too but he would visit and help me pay for the sp...

There were moments at the beginning that stood out but as we talked through them they haven't been like that but I guess especially lately we've been arguing more. We have been stressed because we're moving in together and figuring out money and everything. So, I'm more on edge and stressed and have...

I feel like he is mostly respectful and accept my boundaries and he doesn’t push/force me to engage in things I don’t want. I’m a survivor of sexual abuse and things around sex can be triggering and confusing. Like he’s masturbated that past few days when I’m gone and I cannot help but feel disturbe...

Trigger warning: I’m confused about a situation and what it means or what I should do. I don’t want to end things because this doesn’t happen ever but did happen once and I think about it. Also, my partner and I are moving in within a week. We’ve been together for almost two years and are in our ear...

Honestly Sam I have no clue, heh
The talk went sideways and then forward and then backward. I do not know what to do. I'm only 19

Yeah we talked about it and he hasn't done this before,

My bf and I were having sex and mentioned he was going to cum, and then seconds pass, and we were still having sex, and I didn't want to stop, but I felt like I should check in to see if he did because we would need to change the condom. He lied about not having an orgasm because he wanted to keep g...

Thank you

They changed their mind, and both of them initiated it. The other person did not bring it up again but was a little touchy later and then asked if the person didn't want to have sex still, and the person said they did want to have sex and that they changed their mind.

Hello,
If someone said they weren't up for sex and the other person accepted it but later on, they ended up having sex anyway. Is that sexual coercion?

Hi Mo, I talked to my partner about the decision to pause on sex until I talk with my doctor and feel safe around the STDS part. Maybe pause after feeling less worried about STDs and take it slow after that because I have so much going on. For some reason, sex adds some anxiety to my life, which suc...

I recently had sex with my new partner, and we've both been previously tested, and our results were negative & we had no sexual partners since, but that was months before we got together. So, I was still a little scared, but we had sex anyway with protection, but I could not help but feel uneas...

Yeah, thank you. That makes sense.

Right, they had sex with them while they were still with them.

I think I feel anxious that I won't be able to compare to them or that they got to be close to him that way.

I've been dating this person for a month now, and we've been talking since July (we know each other from college). I've learned that they have had three sexual encounters with each of their x's (we've never had sex), and it makes me jealous/anxious when I think about it. I've also have had my own ex...

Hello,
Thank you for your thorough reply I will refer back to this advice and I think there are some good examples of what being intense can be and how to cope with feelings using mindfulness.

Hey Horriblegoose,
I've been told that I was overly sensitive in the past and I've also heard being intense is a turn off by a few women not directly to me but about other women.

Hi Sam, Yeah, I believe it's my thoughts and getting nervous around a person it takes a lot of energy over one person it's amazingly unbelievable. I see them every week where we have to interact face to face and talk. Also, people suggest that meeting people in places that you have similar interests...

Hey Horriblegoose, I'm like a scatter plot when it comes to crushes always have been. I'm frustrated with crushes in general. And I don't know that I'd say I want the feelings to go away but they make me uneasy. When I say the realistic option is to move what I mean is when I get a crush I don't do ...

Hello, I'm in a situation where I've been attracted to a particular person for a number of months. I see him every week at a place we both go also at college. And we don't really talk to each other about our lives or personal stuff. I believe I'm a little obvious about my thoughts and feelings. Alth...

It seems doable! Thanks!

It has been a month since I've been active! I've been busy and havent found myself with any questions to ask. But scarleteen has been helpful in the past. I have a situation that has presented itself to me. Someone(a guy from work) I like has told me that they move a lot and relationships are hard f...

Thank you and yes I do want to have an intimate relationship that includes sexual intimacy.

How can I talk to a potential romantic/sexual partners about negative sexual experiences and what can I except or should I except? what are some boundaries I might apply to these new relationships that will prevent the same things happening again like a sexual partner listening when you don't feel r...

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