I do feel safe in the relationship. I love her and she’s very kind and loving towards me. This is the only time we’ve ever experienced something like this in the relationship.

She has agreed to stop and give us time.

I’d appreciate that. This situation actually used to be worse, she’s been trying to get us to do something for awhile now. She used to be awful with boundaries, even triggering my ptsd about my ex-boyfriend (he molested me in the bathroom once). She hasn’t done anything outright like that since, but...

She tries to respect my boundaries and in the moment she always recoils and apologizes. Sometimes though.. I guess she forgets? Or tells me that it’s okay and that nobody can hear us, that I won’t get in trouble.

What about the fact that she wasn’t wanting to have intercourse? Does that matter?

No, they don’t want us having sex, but they wouldn’t report me I’m sure! I’ve mentioned it to my girlfriend several times, but she keeps trying to touch me and get me to touch her. I’m not very assertive, but I’m scared that I’ll get in trouble if she doesn’t listen. I want to do things with her but...

I live in Michigan. Our parents understand and know that we are both trans, yes.

And by penetration I mean intercourse

Okay, let’s start with an intro. I am a transgender male, and my girlfriend is a transgender female. I am 16, she is 15, she’s 10 months younger than I am. The law would likely see me as a female and her as a male. Anyways.. My girlfriend wants to start doing things, and so do I. Absolutely NO penet...