I've read online from many different places that porn isn't what real sex looks like, and that it's just for entertainment. That got me wondering about what happens in real sex and how do you figure out what position and stuff you are going to do.

Heather wrote:Not all boys have a penis, so we try not to assume!

A little late of a response, I know, but I'm not familiar with genders and I didn't even know that was a thing lol so no problem.

Sorry for the misunderstanding! The best lubes are generally things sold specifically as sexual lubricants. But if those are out of reach for you, and you have a penis, you still have a lot of options. Oils like olive or vegetable or coconut work, but some people use things like hand or body lotion...

Jacob wrote:Hi username, Welcome to Scarleteen!

We have an article about that very topic. Take a look here: D.I.Y. Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition

Do any parts of that article help?

I'm not looking for sex toys, but I think masturbating with lube instead of my dry hand would be better.

I'm 14 years old and the only "me time" I get is at night when I'm in bed. I don't know what to masturbate with or what to use as a lube so I guess what I'm asking is if you can help me come up with ideas of household things that I could use.