Hi Sabine, Remember that these are just two people/situations, out of the literally billions of people that are out there, and the many that you will be interested in. Everyone is different, and these two girls are definitely not examples of what every future crush of yours will be like. You might a...

Hi TS_6249, I think Mo has gone over this pretty well - there aren't any particular benefits, it all depends on what you like and what your partner likes. Some people like girthier penises, some people prefer less girthy penises. Same with length. Some people like all penises; some don't like any! C...

Hi GS_6,

If you'd like, we have private boards where only a few other users can see, and only staff can comment. You can also text or chat us with a question if you'd rather not discuss it on the boards.

Hi CatHaru26, Just want to say that you have a really great awareness of what's going on with your body! I know it's stressful to think about the tightening up, but being aware of what's happening and how you are feeling is actually a really positive thing. You can use that awareness to help you fig...

Hi annabanana, Gotcha! I wonder if you can schedule a short phone call with your doctor earlier than your current planned appointment. She may be able to answer your questions and prescribe a different pill over the phone. If you have to use tampons, we've got info here about how to use them/how oft...

Hi annabanana, At this point in time, depending on where you are at in your cycle, it might be tough to change your birth control in a way that would guarantee you'd miss your period that week. That's definitely a question for your doctor, though. I'd also add that if you like this particular pill, ...

Hi curious88bee,

You might enjoy the book "Tell Me What You Want" - it's all about a huge research study that looked at people's sexual fantasies. Spoiler: basically no fantasy is unheard of or weird.

Hi MigueLMichaeL, We've already answered that question above. I'm so glad you're finding Scarleteen helpful! Since you're worried about pregnancy scares, what do you think about stepping back from sexual activities that make you feel anxious for a little while? I know that can be a tough decision to...

Hi MigueLMichaeL, Totally safe! Bleach is a very powerful disinfectant and would remove any semen that was on the toilet seat. Just so you know, semen on a toilet seat is generally not something that could cause harm to another person (or pregnancy). Semen, like other bodily fluids, has to come in c...

Hi BuddyBoi21, I found a few websites that might be helpful! Please disregard any information that doesn't apply to you. These are targeted toward "youth" which is often code for "teen," but the info is still good. I know that some of the things the sites mention don't necessaril...

Hi BuddyBoi21, I'd be happy to look for some resources for you! Can you tell me a little bit more about what would be helpful? Some things I can think of might be: financial literacy, how to rent your own apartment...what else would be useful? I'm sorry if I missed this in a previous post thread of ...

Hi curious88bee, I'm glad you enjoyed the article! About IQ and sex/gender - it's actually even more complicated ! IQ (which is only one measure of intelligence, and it's actually pretty flawed) is what we call a "polygenic" trait. "Poly" (many) "genic" (genes). In othe...

It's really impossible for me to tell. It sounds like she's been flirting and friendly, but that doesn't necessarily mean that she wants a relationship. Plus, with the stress of the fires and everything, that might affect her ability to feel interested right now. Only you have the ability to figure ...

I think your idea of sending a check-in message in a few days or a week sounds good, and until then, your ideas of how to keep yourself busy are great! What is the focus of the college club that you are interested in working with?

Hi kiiimibela, This is exactly what Plan B is made for: to prevent pregnancy when a partner ejaculates in you. So you don't need to take another pill. I'm a little concerned to hear that you're taking Plan B on top of taking your normal birth control pills. I know you've asked in the past about the ...

Those are really good insights! It's amazing (and often really frustrating) how what we experience as children can have lasting impacts on us even through adulthood. I'm sorry to hear you were punished for wanting love. No one should be punished for wanting love or to be loved. We all deserve love, ...

I'm hearing a lot of self-judgment there, and also some unhappiness about how life is going in general. It sounds like you're having a tough time, maybe even beyond love/wanting love. That sounds pretty tough to be feeling. Is this something that's been going on for a while, KurtisC?

Hi john, I appreciate that you'd like to hear from someone else who might have experienced this sort of thing before - that makes sense! However, this is something that really should be discussed with your doctor. We aren't healthcare providers and ultimately can't give you medical advice, nor can w...

Hi KurtisC, Wanting to love and be loved is a pretty common experience for many people (though we're all on a spectrum of romanticism). It can certainly cause frustration if there isn't any love to be found at the moment, though. Can you tell me a little bit more about why you feel this makes you un...

Hi raindrop, and welcome to the boards. What you're describing isn't uncommon. Gender really can be confusing, and we can have different experiences with our genders throughout our lives. Mo wrote this wonderful piece which speaks right to what you're saying. I'd start here! Gender Confusion: Being ...

Hi TS_6249,

Having your own room is definitely a big help! We've got a couple articles about having sex and masturbating quietly:

How Can I Navigate a Sexual Relationship in a Dorm Without Alarming My Neighbors?

Relevant:
How can I masturbate without my parents knowing?

Hi sky, I hope your therapist appointment goes well today. Seconding (thirding?) Sam and Mo to say that taking your medications as advised is important because stopping them abruptly can also cause some weird effects. I hope you're able to get in touch with your psychiatrist to talk to them about ho...

Hi UnderSkrt, I think I understand what you're saying, but correct me if I'm wrong: Porn is stimulating in a different way than fantasizing in your head. Porn is a performance, often by professional actors, and it's often pretty visually/aurally intense. Fantasizing may not reach that same level of ...

Also, I think you might like this: an interview with Jiz Lee, a nonbinary porn star. They've even written a book about their experience.

An Interview With Jiz Lee

Your gender changing in response to some outside stimulus (e.g. porn) is totally valid, because your gender is something that you only YOU experience. It doesn't have to be static. There are a number of people who identify as genderfluid/genderqueer and they, like you, feel that their gender changes...