Unfortunately because of the anxiety and intrusive thoughts, even having two methods still causes me major anxiety. Everything will seem fine and then an hour or two later I’ll suddenly have a doubtful thought like I’ll convince myself something might have leaked out the base of the condom or there ...

Thanks! I should add I do use extra protection but even then I worry about it ripping or something .

I’ve been having CBT but the problem is I struggle to know if a worry is ‘real’ or not. For instance I feel pretty convinced that my injection might not be working now because of the fact I kept twisting around the day of and day after I got my injection, which is reinforced by the weird sensation I...

Getting information reassures a particular worry but then another one will probably just pop up. Or I may still in this example worry because in this instance I felt something when I twisted around so it’s the uncertainty of what that was. And also worrying whether I can rationalise a problem myself...

Ah right. So doing what I’ve done shouldn’t have had the same negative effect?

Sort of but not really because with things like this I struggle to know if it’s a ‘real’ issue or not like if what I’ve done and what I’ve felt means my injection is now less effective. Thanks

Thanks! Are you able to please explain why massaging causes a problem but exerting / twisting the muscle by turning around too far wouldnt? I didn’t think it was an issue myself until I felt this weird sensation when I did it. This is the problem with anxiety. Makes you do things to reassure yoursel...

Hi, I have another question about depo provera injection. I had my most recent shot last week. Because I have quite severe anxiety, after the injection (which was in my butt area) I kept twisting around in the mirror to try and look at where it had been injected (the injection leaves a little red ma...

Thanks. It’s more just over analysing and worrying afterwards . Strain on relationship because I’m asking bf lots of questions for reassurance and over analysing and worrying . It’s quite exasperating for him because he doesn’t see an issue and I worry a lot.

Thank you. And yes but on the dangling topic (I meant it looks like that after sex. When I first put it on it fits fine) this is the same partner with the exact same brand and size of condom. Just looks different sometimes because sometimes it’s dangling down at the end/ stretched out by like an Inc...

Could you please elaborate on why it’s unrealistic to have small or tiny holes? It’s surely not impossible and I figure if it’s a small hole you might not notice liquid dripping out straight away. I do have some anxieties in other areas but mainly it’s pregnancy and that’s the most problematic and h...

Hi, I have 2 questions please. Firstly, how should I be checking a condom after sex? Surely just glancing at it wouldn’t make any tiny holes obvious so should I be squeezing it or filling it with water or something? Sometimes the condom will be stretched out more than other times after sex, like som...

Thanks Sam

Thanks! Can I clarify by ‘injection site’ do you mean literally just the area where it was injected (in my case the glute muscle)? I also happened to have sore leg muscles that day from a previous workout. So I remember rubbing my thigh muscle quite firmly to sooth the pain, but my injection was in ...

I thought that, but then I read online you shouldn’t rub the injection site either or it can make it less effective. I’m not sure if rub means hard or at all

Hey, I recently went for my fifth depo shot. Previously, a nurse had warned me not to massage the injection site as it can make the shot less effective. Usually after injecting, the nurse dabs it lightly and sticks a bandaid on if it bleeds. I’m worried because this time when I got the shot, the nur...

Hey, I had my depo Provera a week or two ago. When I had it, the nurse told me not to massage the injection site. However, just yesterday I’ve accidentally banged my injection site quite hard, and now I’m worried if that could effect it. I assumed the massage thing just meant for the first day or tw...

Thanks. I wasn’t sure if it was normal or if it meant I’d put the condom on wrong, because I started to roll it down before I pinched the tip.

Thanks Sam. So it’s normal for some ejaculate to be visible at the sides ? It doesn’t all need to be contained just in the tip? Thanks

Hi there, When using a condom, we start rolling it down a bit, then pinch the tip, and continue to roll it on the rest of the way. At the end, most of the semen is caught in the reservoir tip. However, I’ve noticed some also seems to overflow slightly into the sides (just near the top. Not at the ba...

Hi, I sometimes worry about what to do in the event of a condom breaking, so I thought I’d ask so I have a plan in place, just in case it ever happens. I’m on the depo injection and there aren’t any risks of STIs with my long term partner. However, if a condom breaks or rips during sex, would that m...

Thanks. It’s very difficult to know which resources to trust online as there’s so much conflicting information. Like some websites would say precum on the outside of a condom is still a risk, even though it’s indirect transfer. Scarleteen seems pretty clued up though so it’s helpful that you say it’...

Sorry meant to reply to this. It’s quite tough with the conflicting information online to know what’s true and not so thanks for clarifying! Where do you guys get your knowledge from? Thanks!

Hi it’s on planned parenthood where I read ‘If you accidentally put a condom on inside out… it can pick up fluids (like pre-cum) that can spread STDs or cause pregnancy.’ That’s why I was confused as to why that’s a risk, but touching precum with your hand and then touching the outside of the condom...

Thank you. I was also going to ask, if touching precum and then the outside of the condom isn’t a risk, then why is it a risk to put a condom on the wrong way round and then put it back on the correct way? Surely in both circumstances that’s an indirect transfer of precum? But one seems to be an iss...

Just a bit too personal and I hadn't realised it couldn't be deleted. Do you ever make an exception? Happy to keep my previous posts up, but this one just wasn't keen as relates to somebody other than just me and wouldn't want him to feel embarrassed. Thanks