I used to think that losing your virginity happened (I'm a cis female) when a penis entered my vagina. But as I discovered and explored my sexuality, that definition feels really uncomfortable to me now. If someone asks when I lost it, I don't know how to answer. When I had oral sex? Vaginal sex? My...

Hey there! I'm curious what people's preferred birth control method is. I always use condoms or dental dams for added protection, plus the benefit of protecting against STI's. Other than that - I've taken the pill and I have had an IUD. Has anyone tried the shot or implant? I'm wondering what other ...

Hi there! To echo Alice, periods change a lot, especially considering diet, stress, physical activity, etc. I asked my doc one time about the darker brownish colors versus bright red and he said those color changes are normal, it's just the different points in the cycle. My understanding is that the...

This might seem too obvious, but you don't have a tampon or anything stuck inside your vagina? My suggestion - along with different positions, less fingers, etc. - would be to add lube. Spit will dry up and isn't going to give you what you need. I always go for a water-based lube! It washes out easi...

There are plenty of things to like about every body!! I like my smile - I never had braces and I'm proud of that. I like my hazel eyes. And my legs! They're short and muscular and I love those things.

This thread is old but hopefully this will still help someone! I found it easy for myself to calm down and open up (when I was first getting to know my counselor) if I had something in my hands. So maybe the sleeve of a sweatshirt, a water bottle, just something to hold was very comforting! I also w...

I've personally had a stay in a mental hospital, so I know from experience how disorienting it can feel. I found I coped best when I had something to busy myself with. Either asking someone else about themselves (it takes the pressure off of you, you can sit back and just chill), or having an activi...

My sex talk was quite literally "the man puts his penis inside the woman's vagina. But wait until marriage" and then I asked if you kiss during hahah. Definitely not helpful in terms of anatomy, emotions, health, etc. I wish I would've been taught that sex can occur with different genders ...

Did you get a formal sex talk from parents/adults/schooling? What is something you wish you had learned? Personally, I wish I would've been taught about sex beyond penis-in-vagina. I grew up in an abstinence only house, where even masturbation was frowned upon. There was a lot of information I misse...

Here's an idea that I find works nicely, especially if it's something that might be new or uncomfortable to discuss. I would either go on a drive or take a walk and discuss it. There's something about the intimacy of being side by side, and moving in the same direction, that is really therapeutic! P...

I love these discussions! Sometimes a hug goes such a long way for me, or even sitting closer together on the couch - even platonically - it makes me feel emotionally close when I have a close physical proximity. Encouraging words are also appreciated! More and more, I find myself valuing time with ...