To add, I don't even think that statement about me being a girl unless I'm horny enough to be a boy is even true. It feels more like I can only be a femboy when I'm horny because I only imagine myself as a femboy in sexual situations. And, since my gender is related to how I feel about sex, I can't ...

I’ll do my best to articular how I feel. I’m having trouble understanding what these feelings are exactly. Like in the early stages it started with me fantasizing about having sex with a fem person with a penis. So a trans girl or a femboy. Then it slowly divulged into oh shit what if I was the femb...

I think a part of me is kinda resistant to exploring other identities as doing so would open new complications to me. But I should probably allow myself to explore non-binary genders anyway. That really helped. Hell, even if I still identify as trans girl, that doesn’t stop me from presenting as a f...

I certainly understand how figuring this stuff out can take years and it’s not too important to understand the whole but the parts. I feel like I made this post wanting someone to tell me what I am and how I should feel. Navigating these contradictory feelings is really difficult for me.

I've identified as a trans woman for 4 years now. I've felt content with my identity ever since 9th grade. When I later realized I liked having a penis as a girl more than the idea of having a vagina, I thought I was done with the whole gender thing. For the most part, I solved my bottom dysphoria. ...

I don’t think putting sex off entirely is the way to go? I love my gf and we have talked about it and agreed to be in an open relationship to satisfy our sexual needs. I still want to have sex with them but I don’t know where to even start talking about it. Like where do you begin?

I’ve pointed this out to them before with almost the exact same wording. We have different views on sex and that it makes me worried. I have it for pleasure, them for intimacy. And I’ve explained that when I cant return the pleasure they give me I feel bad cause, to me, why else would you be having ...

My gf and I have different views on sex because our experiences with it have been wildly different, and somehow quarantine when we're not having it is making that disconnect either worse or more apparent. I have sex for pleasure; my gf has sex for intimacy with me, even if it isn't that much pleasur...

What the title says. Didn't help that I was starting to question my gender again when this came out but whatever. I'm a trans woman of color so my average lifespan is like 30. I'll probably be murdered before I die due to refusal of care, but even then they're one in the same, aren't they? Sure, Cal...

Are there some ways to do it without hurting me? The only reason I'm this scared of it happening is because 1) all the videos and stories and 2) the first time we tried cowgirl they lowered onto me wrong and it hurt a little bit (I didn't let them go any further). However, we've done cowgirl before,...

You know that thing where like if you do something absolutely wrong while having penetrative sex with a penis the stiff spongy tissue will... snap... in half and it'll be extremly painful and you need surgery to fix it? Yeah every time I have sex with my girlfriend I am absolutely terrified of that ...

I mean the collection I had was several several months old and full of things I like that are pretty hard to find. A lot of them were trans girls or drawn trans girls from accounts I didn’t bother write down. Some were videos with no source. I was in the middle of moving it to an external or online ...

This is gonna sound really really really stupid but bare with me. I had a folder on my laptop that was 13.3 whole gigabytes of porn. Like okay whatever standard for a teenager I'm sure. I've been doing this for a while so I created no backups and any backup I did have was either stored online or on ...

There's nothing perverted or disgusting at all about experiencing dysphoria. It's okay to be envious of cis presenting girls for being able to live the life you wish you had. I hope one day your circumstances change too and that you're able to be who you really are without having to hide it.

So from my understanding social dysphoria is less about who you are and more how you present. So for example, I experience body dysphoria because my flat chest doesn't match the chest that matches my gender (A-B cups). However, I experience social dysphoria because, due to my circumstances, I have t...

Hi there, CaptainWildRose! As like the others said, you don't need any amount of dysphoria to be trans. The only person that can say if you're trans is yourself. From personal experience being trans mtf, I can tell you that not only does the amount and severity of dysphoria vary by person, but can a...

I’ve been in a lot of abusive relationships. 4 I’ve dated, one of which was sexual. 1 was a friends-with-benefits situation. And I’ve had a buuuuuunch of toxic friendships. I know it’s normal to miss your abusers and stuff like that, but this is different. I keep thinking about the person I was frie...

Well I want to use the metal rings cause I think they look cool. But like I am several years away from transitioning and starting HRT, so it’s not a problem now. If, after having experience, it is unsafe then like I won’t do it. I don’t know how HRT, viagra, and cock rings affect me individually or ...

Well when I’m on HRT I won’t be able to get erections at all as far as I can tell. So I wanna take viagra to give me the erection and then the metal cock ring just to look cool. I can’t really do any method without being hard first. I feel like with a lot of lube I think I can get a metal cock ring ...

Hey I have another question about cock rings.

Since I wanna go on HRT, I wanna use viagra to get hard when I need/want to. However I looked up that viagra lasts at least 2 hours. But if I’m not supposed to use a cock ring longer than 30 minutes, how do I wear one on HRT?

I think spray painting something that will be on such a sensitive area is probably not the best idea. But I have used bracelets and necklaces with hanging jewelry as cock rings before so I can use those! And getting metal cock rings and sprucing it up isn’t out of the question for me since I cosplay...

Well in California buying sex toys in person when underage is impossible so I can’t do that. And Planned Parenthood gives out condoms and lube packets for free. Plus my gf doesn’t mind buying pregnancy tests themself. When I buy toys I usually just get a prepaid visa, send it to my friends house, an...

I've actually bought sex toys using a prepaid visa over Amazon (yes bad idea I know) and other sites so that's not really a problem. But walking into a sex store is out of the question where I am. Theoretically I could go into a Spencer's but I'm too nervous for that. Thanks for the info, though! I ...

I was wondering if anyone here has any experience with cock rings before. Like how to use them safely and such. I know there are different kinds of cock rings but I’m mainly interested in using the silicone and metal kinds. The silicone ones I want to use for pleasure (obviously) but the metal rings...

So in my sophomore year of HS, my school offered a class in drag for 5 full days. I joined and we (like 7 openly queer students including me and a queer teacher) talked to drag performers, went to an LGBT center, watched a drag show, shopped for and made costumes, and performed on the last day. From...