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I can’t masturbate with my hands

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I can’t masturbate with my hands

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I’ve been masturbating for around a year now and though I have tried with my hands several times before, I can’t get anywhere close to orgasm. I’ve also tried using other safe objects (rubbing) but nothing seems to work for me at all except for vibrators. I have to use the strongest setting on the vibrators I’ve used to get there as well and even then it sometimes takes a while. Is this normal? Is there anything I can do to be able to not rely on vibrators? I’m scared I won’t even be able to get off or get close to orgasm during sex in the future. Any thoughts?
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Re: I can’t masturbate with my hands

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Hi Snailwithhat

You know, I don't think this is unusual, and more importantly, it works for you. Of course, you can always try to explore new ways of masturbating to find other things that you like, but don't focus on not relying on a vibrator. (Also, you can use a vibrator during sex with another person if you want.)
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