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masturbation doesn't feel good...kinda hurts?

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solartopia
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masturbation doesn't feel good...kinda hurts?

Unread post by solartopia »

Well for starters, I truly think my body is broken. Rubbing my clit doesn't work, its just too sensitive, I cant insert any fingers without feeling uncomfortable and pain at the entrance, I don't know what my body likes or doesn't like, rubbing my nipples just feels like rubbing any other body part, the list goes on and on. People tell me to watch porn or read erotica, but like I can do that and not feel aroused or anything. I bought a dildo I can't begin to use, I bought lube, I bought a vibrator, but its so frustrating because nothing is working. Or when I do "feel" something, I don't get wet. It sucks because I want to be able to enjoy masturbation, and sooner or later, be able to enjoy sex with my bf. But like, I don't even know how to experiment and find out what I like, please help.
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Re: masturbation doesn't feel good...kinda hurts?

Unread post by Sam W »

Hi Solartopia,

So, I actually want to direct you back to the last reply Latha left in your other thread, because I think going that direction with this discussion might prove fruitful. Latha asked "Could we step back from discussing masturbation for a moment? In general, how do you connect with your body? Are there things you do to feel pleasure that are not related to masturbating?" If you need some examples of that, this article can help you out: I Feel Good: Pleasure and Fulfillment
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