i can’t seem to orgasm

[emrui]

hi! so i’ve been trying to explore more areas of masturbation since the traditional methods of just using my fingers doesn’t seem to be doing much for me. it feels pretty good, but i can never seem to actually orgasm.
i gave toys a go, but trying the stimulate my g-spot with them honestly feels less stimulating than just using my fingers. when i’ve tried using toys on my clit, it feels good for a minute or two and then it gets too overwhelming to the point it gets uncomfortable and almost painful and i have to stop.
it’s just getting frustrating at this point, so any advice would be heavily appreciated!

[Jacob]

Hi Emrui!

This is a tough one, it sounds like you've explored a good few general "methods" but nothing has clicked so far?

Something you might want to try is moving away from orgasm being the end-goal. Sometimes, just like many other things in life, orgasm can be easier to find when you aren't looking for it.

Do you think this could be a factor? It sounds like from everything you've tried, some stuff has felt good, so why not explore those more, and try and understand which subtle variations on those things feel better and simply enjoy them as much as you can for what they are?

Do you think that'd make a difference to how you're already approaching it?