Is height a thing for you?

[Heather]

Okay, some of our team just don't get it and just have to know: if you care about how tall (or short) people you date or partner with are, why?

[TruthSeeker]

I think that height can seem to matter for some sex positions, and this might seem like a care about; but there are ways to deal with it. For instance, if the man is comparatively tall, and the position is doggy style; then the woman could wear block heels to make up for the differences in height. There are also sex aids like wedge pillows that can be used to help with positions.

[KierC]

Hey there TruthSeeker, and welcome to the boards

Heather was asking if *you* personally care about height, and if so, why? Do you have any opinions on that personally?

Also, a quick note on the language we use (and invite you to use as well) when interacting here on the boards, and in life. We stray from talking about sex as something that happens between “The Man” and “The Woman,” not only because this heteronormative generalization is not accurate, but also because it can be offensive to the people who read it. Sex can and does frequently happen between people of all gender identities, and for those who identify outside of a gender binary, and for those who do not identify as heterosexual, hearing that sort of language can be painful. Does that make sense to you?

It sounds like you’re saying people might care about height because height differences could pose difficulty in certain sex positions. I can certainly see how folks might think that, but honestly, I can’t think of any positions where height would reasonably pose a difficulty to sexual activity, including the example you provided. In reality, height isn’t a deterrence to pleasurable sex — the only true height-related deterrence to pleasure I can imagine is if someone has some painful biases about height that prevent them from truly experiencing pleasure. Know what I mean?

[TruthSeeker]

I understand your concern about the "the man" and "the woman" labels, and it should be avoided. My personal concern about height is really an attraction thing, and I think that could apply to others also.