Fingering myself does not feel good
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Fingering myself does not feel good
Hi I have been having some trouble I am 13 and I have been pleasuring myself for about 2 years now but I still have not fingered my self (I pleasured my self by rubbing if that helps).I have read other posts on here saying I have to be aroused in order to do this but when I try I am laying down and wet, but I hit the rim of my vaginal wall and it hurts. I am still a virgin and I have tried to insert other things but it's like my conscience wont let me do it. If anyone has any advice I am open to anything.
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Re: Fingering myself does not feel good
Hi Rm2882,
So, when we talk about arousal helping with inserting things into the vaginal canal, that means mental arousal as well as physical (like producing a lot of vaginal lubrication). In other words, it helps when your brain is invested in something like a fantasy. Does it feel like that's been happening when you've tried this in the past?
Too, if just rubbing is enjoyable for you as a means of masturbation, is there a reason you feel like you have to insert your fingers?
So, when we talk about arousal helping with inserting things into the vaginal canal, that means mental arousal as well as physical (like producing a lot of vaginal lubrication). In other words, it helps when your brain is invested in something like a fantasy. Does it feel like that's been happening when you've tried this in the past?
Too, if just rubbing is enjoyable for you as a means of masturbation, is there a reason you feel like you have to insert your fingers?
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Re: Fingering myself does not feel good
Hi!
I know that this can be frustrating, but also you are not alone in this. In fact other people have reached out with similar issues - this advice article actually covers some points that may be helpful for you to try: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advi ... hould_i_do
I know that this can be frustrating, but also you are not alone in this. In fact other people have reached out with similar issues - this advice article actually covers some points that may be helpful for you to try: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advi ... hould_i_do
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Re: Fingering myself does not feel good
I have had fantasies when I try to do it and it still does not help. I dont know way I feel like I have to I guess it is because I am aroused? I don't know.
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Re: Fingering myself does not feel good
If it feels right, then it's okay! But if you are doing it because you feel like you have to, that's putting pressure on yourself. Everyone has different things that work for them, and there's no right or wrong way to masturbate. Insertion doesn't work for many people and that's just as okay. Do you know why you feel like you have to do it?
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Re: Fingering myself does not feel good
Thank you that helps a lot I pretty sure that was my problem now that I think about it. Thanks again❤
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