I'm just testing the water

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TaylorJames
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I'm just testing the water

Unread post by TaylorJames »

Hi,

I met a girl, and we're both into rougher sex. Before we meet up again i want to get some clarity and insight and just learn more about it..
Where do i get good reading sources for woman on woman rougher sex?

Some guidance please :)
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Re: I'm just testing the water

Unread post by Sam W »

Hi TaylorJames,

My recommendations would actually be these two pieces on communicating with your partner and figuring out what activities both people are excited to try and which ones are off limits: Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist, Be a Blabbermouth! The Whys, Whats and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner

The reason I suggest those is that what "rough" sex means varies a lot depending on who you talk to (and that variation often about each, specific person, not belonging to a given gender), so you and your partner will be better served by talking about what it means to each of you and what you want it to entail rather than relying on more generic resources.
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