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Delaying masturbation

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Hi, my masturbation was not as pleasant as my first time. In the past month while I was on vacation I didn't masturbated until I backed to home, after that, I found out if I don't masturbate for a while I will have more enjoyable masturbation.

But the problem is that my body wants me to masturbate after couple of hours but I'd like to do it after a long time(something between 7 hours-1 day)
So how can I delay my masturbation?
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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Hi Mika.m,

I would say it's normal for your body to feel this way at your age; you are going through many changes. Maybe have dedicated days for when you would like to masturbate and rotate them every so often so you don't get bored and you don't get into too much of a routine.
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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That's a good idea but how can I control my sexual desires whenever I want? Sometimes I don't need to masturbating
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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Hi Mika.M,

If I may ask, do you feel that masturbation is interfering with your everyday life, or is a compulsive behavior that is causing you distress? Otherwise, there is no need to control or suppress your sexual desires.
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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Sometimes it's both of them
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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Okay, got it. If you are struggling with compulsive sexual behavior, it would be in your best interest to seek treatment from a mental healthcare professional. Is that a service you have access to?
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Unfortunately no
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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To be sure I’m understanding how this is for you, what happens when you want to masturbate, but choose not to? Can you make that choice and just not do it, even if it feels uncomfortable? Or do you literally feel like your hands do things even when you don’t want them to?
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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I can control it somewhat
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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But there are times when you feel out of control, like you are acting against your own wishes?
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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Re: Delaying masturbation

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So, really mike, this just sounds like a pretty simple matter: when you want to masturbate less, or don't want to when you feel the desire to, you just don't. It seems pretty fully within your control, and like it's more a matter of just learning how to get okay with the temporary discomfort or disappointment of not doing it.

The good news is this is usually pretty easy and is something many people learn how to do just fine.
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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So, will it be okay?
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No one is harmed by just not masturbating, in any situation. While masturbation and other sexual acitivites can sure be nice, they are not actually essential for anyone's health.
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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I know, masturbation is not bad, but about my problem, this will be fine?
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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Like I said, it's fine to wait to masturbate or not to do it when you want to. Am I misunderstanding what you're asking?
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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No, I got my answer. Thanks for helping :)
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Re: Delaying masturbation

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Sure thing. :)
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