Sexual discussion

[Dollybeats]

Hi am going to 20 but I cant finger myself,I have been fingered by my boyfriend but when I want to try it on myself when masturbating I just cant
So I just stick to rubbing my clitoris for pleasure till am satisfied.. please can I know why I cant finger myself even though I do feel the urge to

[Latha]

Hi there, Dollybeats- welcome to the boards!

Would you tell us a bit more about what you feel when you try to finger yourself? Do you notice any pain or tightness? How is it different from when your boyfriend fingers you?

[Dollybeats]

I kinda tight if I try doing it myself
It's also tight and a bit painful at first when my bf does it but later on I begin to feel the pleasure

[KierC]

Hi Dollybeats,

I want to link you to this article first: From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse

It’s a really great introduction to some of the experiences you’re reporting including the tightness and pain, but the section on getting ready for vaginal entry (including during masturbation) is super important here: getting ready by making sure you’re comfortable, aroused, well-lubricated, and in a comfortable position goes a long way to making vaginal entry comfortable and pleasurable whether you’re alone or with your boyfriend, so I would start there to try to alleviate some of the pain and tightness.

Here’s another resource for you to explore that gives a more general introduction:
Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation

How does all of that sound?