I only feel sexual attraction to people who have a penis (not exclusive to cis men). I feel romantic attraction to anyone (nonbinary people, cis people, genderfluid, ect). The only exception is that I've never felt either for trans* women, for some reason.
So, because I do not feel attracted sexually to all people, I don't think I am pansexual. I think maybe if a romantic relationship was formed with someone who has a vagina, I might eventually feel sexually attracted to them, but I don't really know. I don't want to wrongly label myself as pansexual, but I don't know what term would be able to describe my feelings. Is there anything to describe this? Should I just not label myself as any sexuality and just do whatever feels right?
Also, I am currently romantically interested in a cis girl (who is homosexual) and she doesn't know my sexuality yet. I don't want to pursue a relationship with her unless she knows about my sexuality, but I don't want her to think I am not interested in her just because I don't want to have sex with her. Has anyone else had to explain this kind of thing to a significant other, and if so, how did you tell them? Is there anything I certainly should or should not say when I tell her? Should I just not pursue a relationship with her at all, since she may develop sexual feelings towards me that I probably won't be able to return?
Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you very much for your time
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