Semen on panties

[edgal]

i guess this is a weird question. i just wanted to know that if some pervert puts/ejacs semen on my panties and i wear it unknowingly will that get me pregnant? Actually i travel a lot and put up with my or my husband's friends, and in B&Bs. It's just something i heard and It's got me thinking to no end. Any help will be appreciated.

[Sam W]

Hi edgal,

No, that is not how pregnancy occurs. You can read more about that here: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?
Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide

Are you concerned that someone you travel with might do this?

[edgal]

Yaa.. or maybe someone I am putting up with. My friend saw her landlord sniffing and going through the UGs that she had put out to dry. She was living as a paying guest. It really freaked me out to hear that. And now this thought has really scared me because I wouldn't even know who did it !

[Sam W]

I see (and that was incredibly inappropriate of her landlord to do, to put it mildly), thank you for clarifying. To make sure I understand, there isn't someone in your life right now who you're worried might do this, this is more of a "what if" fear?

[edgal]

The point that got me thinking was that in this case semen would come in contact with the vagina,vulva and the like

[edgal]

No. There isnt anybody. it is just a what-if fear. if anybody did that, i would definitely report to the authorities

[edgal]

if you could actually explain, why it's not possible? It would be really helpful.

[Sam W]

You can find the answer to that in the human reproduction article I linked to earlier.

[edgal]

i went through it. in the section under SEMEN OR VAGINAL FLUID SHARING, it says that any contact between the semen and vulva poses a high risk. the 'what-if' fear is that in this case there is contact between semen and the vagina. And semen takes time to dry. So...?

[Sam W]

That's referring to semen straight out of the penis, not semen that's been on something else. You can read more about that here: Who's Afraid of Sperm Cells?

Do you find yourself having these kinds of extreme fears around other things, or just around sex/pregnancy?

[edgal]

Not really. I am scared to have a child, as a normal young 26 year does, i guess. I am not fearful about anything. it's just the pregnancy. after hearing that incident, i used to wonder, that if i did get pregnant, everybody would congratulate me; but what-if this kid was born out of such insane occurrence , what would i do?? And also, if you have any idea, sex ed and talking about sex openly is pretty much taboo in India. We might be growing economically but having a discussion on such grounds with parents/elders is just a big no-no. hence, i stressed myself for some time and then i found you guys !

[edgal]

And this stress was because I kept imagining a scenario where some perv would ejac where I kept my clothes to dry (the earlier landlord scenario) and me unknowingly wearing it just then

[Ashleah]

Hi Edgal,

I'm sorry this has been stressing you out. But since this is a "what if" scenario it is considered a pregnancy scare post, which we do not answer. The policy is listed below as well as links to information on handling anxiety.

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