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period's kinda MIA

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hi! so my period's been consistently on an under-28-day cycle for the past few months
it's been around 27ish days since my last period and it isn't here yet which is freaking me out slightly
i did engage in sexual activities w my boyfriend this month but it was only dry humping, manual and oral sex so i know it's not bc of a pregnancy risk, but it keeps lingering at the back of my mind
idk what's causing this, why is my period MIA?
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Re: period's kinda MIA

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Hi naurmi008,

There are actually a number of things besides pregnancy that can cause a period to be late. You can read about those here: M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period?

Too, it's common for periods to come a few days earlier or later than expected without anything else going on.If you have a regular cycle, what's most common is a standard deviation of about 3.5 days on average. That means that someone whose cycle is what would be considered regular could have a cycle that was 29 days, then 31 days the next time, then 26 days, and that'd still be a regular period.
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Re: period's kinda MIA

Unread post by naurmi008 »

i read through the article, it helped me calm down a bit, thank you!
idk why i'm so anxious though, i mean i've done the exact same sexual acts in the past and i felt totally anxiety-free
maybe bc those times my period came early but this time my period's not here yet (which admittedly is stressing me out)
how do i calm myself down?
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Do you have things that help you calm down when you're feeling anxious about other topics that you could employ here?
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Re: period's kinda MIA

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hm i don't think so? usually when i'm worried i solve the problem (if i can) or try and ignore it by sleeping the worry away
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Re: period's kinda MIA

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I mean, those are both pretty effective approaches in some cases! If you haven't checked them out before, I'd take a look through some of the different resources listed here; they offer a number of different approaches for managing anxiety: Anxiety and Other Mental Health Resources
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Re: period's kinda MIA

Unread post by naurmi008 »

hi! i found the self help strategies in the link you sent really helpful
it helped me calm my anxiety down, and thankfully i got my period today!
turns out my anxiety was just making the whole thing scarier than it had to be
thank you for the resources!! i'll be sure to check them out if i'm going through anxiety like this again
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