How to tell people that I’m in a QPR

[Jay27]

So my girlfriend of 2 years and I recently changed to a queerplatonic relationship. We call each other “partner” instead of “girlfriend” now. We just drifted apart and started to feel more like best friends who want to cuddle and hold hands sometimes. I told our closest friends and my parents over text, but I don’t know how to tell friends that I’m not as close with and I don’t want to make it weird. Any advice?

[CaitlinEve]

Hey Jay!

Do you think the friends you're not as close with would understand/know what a QPR is? Could you try explaining it like you explained it here; that you drifted apart and your feelings have changed from romantic feelings to platonic?

I want to also say that changing your relationship to a QPR is not inherently weird and if your friends did think it was weird, it wouldn't be because of you or your relationship or the way you explained it; it would likely be their own bias that cause them to see it as weird. Does that make sense?

[Jay27]

I’m not sure if my friends would know what a QPR is. Most of them are bi or gay so it might be easier to explain to them. I don’t think that being in a QPR is weird. I guess I don’t want to make a big deal of it. Like I don’t want to make an announcement in the big group chat.

[CaitlinEve]

Maybe you could just bring it up on an as-needed basis (like if somebody asks how your partner is or how your relationship is going), if you'd prefer not making an announcement. It isn't and doesn't have to be a big deal if you don't want it to be!