Fictional characters affecting relationships.

[Azariel]

Hi, my name's Levi, preferred name is Azariel. I'm new to this, please bare with me. So I was just searching for answers/advice for my situation. I'm a 36 year old girl, who well..has never been the romantic or loveable type. Then I met a 47 year old guy through a short course I did, we didnt cluck straight away, we started off as friends, we only just confessed that we're dating the start of this year, so far its..eh, he is extremely living, caring, protective and pretty much spoils me like no tomorrow, but..there is slight problem (if you want to call it that) I have these emotional support characters (fictional) who I pretty much am extremely attached to. I get offended or angry/black out if strangers/family members hurt them or..take them away from me. I have 3 characters that I'm emotionally attached to. I dont know if anyone has heard of the new series on YouTube called *skibidi toilet?* well umm, it's kind of embarrassing, but there are titan-like characters in this series called: Titan Cameraman, Titan Speakerman and Titan TV man, and to me, *only* these three characters I am extremely emotionally attached to, they are my emotional support, and I personally call them my *daddies* and yes as in both for comfort and other ways, if you know what I mean. So my current boyfriend, he supports me and my *daddies* and likes them just as much as I do, then just yesterday, I was at his house gaming, he blew me a kiss, and I just smiled (because I'm not that romantic) then hes like: "wow, not even a blowing kiss back" and I knew he was joking because he said it in a teasing/joking way, but it got me thinking. "Why do I have to blow you kisses? Like he knows I'm not that romantic and stuff. Also I feel like he's *jealous* of my emotional support characters, but as I was reading some posts early about similar topics. I started getting emotional and broke down, because, I dont want to hurt my partner, because hes always been there for me, but I..i cant just remove my emotional support characters either. I..I dont know how to move forward..like..should i talk about it with him, then maybe slowly break up? Or should i continue staying with my partner and forget my emotional support characters? Because without my characters, i..i dont know, what I'll do...please, i need some advice or tips on what's steps I should do. Thank you all. I appreciate it.

[Andy]

Hi there Azariel and welcome to the boards.

I’m sorry to hear this is causing you so much distress and I want you to get the help you need. However, this is out of the scope of what we are able to help you with here, as it sounds more like something that a counsellor or therapist would be better equipped to help you with. Including because they can provide a fully private one-on-one conversation while our boards are a public space. Is that something you have access to?

[Azariel]

Hi Andy,
Alright, thank you so much, I will look into counseling around my suburb, and see Ifthey can help. Thank you so much for your advice. I'd appreciate it, it's just been so long and I have been to mental health therapist as well as counseling and I feel like it doesnt help as much, but I'll try a different approach maybe, thank you again.

[Heather]

If I can offer some additional help, I'd suggest that you make very clear to new therapists you are screening (be that by email, phone or in person) what you specifically want help with.

Then I'd ask them what their treatment plan would be for someone looking for help with this. If anything anyone suggests just doesn't sound like it would work for you, keep trying with new folks until what someone suggests sounds like something that could work for you. And if and when you are working with someone and you don't feel like the way you're working together it helping you, be sure and say that to them so you can try and work together better.