Im 16 and CANT orgasm. Please help.

[Kammmmmmmm]

Im a girl (16) and masturbating has been a struggle I have a vibrator that stimulates my clit and internally. When I’m masturbating it gets to a point where it feels like a wave of pleasure has went through my body and then after the fact my clit is so sensitive and i physically cannot handle anything else. And im also satisfied after?? Which confuses me because I’ve watched porn on how to masturbate, I’ve googled I’ve read reddits all of the above, and being satisfied and tried sounds like an orgasm? From what I’ve seen but everyone tells me that ILL KNOW when I’ve orgasmed. So the fact im still questioning it makes me think I haven’t. When I first started masturbating it took me a minute to even let myself try and get to the point of that feeling of intense pleasure going through my body. So I just know if I was able to get past it now I could probably have an orgasm. It’s making me frustrated because I’ve even talked to my friends and they all have had an orgasm. I’ve even talked to my boyfriend about it but clearly things are going to be different because he’s a male. It’s really frustrating because I feel like I can’t satisfy myself to my fullest potential and he feels like he can’t satisfy me ether because I don’t orgasm when we have sex. I know im still young but it’s really frustrating and it makes me feel like somethings wrong with my body. Has anyone been through this and eventually got through? Or does anyone have any advice? Please help!

[HannahP]

Hi there Kammmmmmm! Welcome to the boards!

To me, what you're describing does sound a lot like an orgasm. Orgasms can feel differently from person to person, though, and even from orgasm to orgasm! Sometimes people experience orgasms that feel more or less intense, for example. I personally don't think that the advice that you'll definitely know if you've had an orgasm is very helpful, partly because they can feel really different, and partly because some people are naturally inclined to question a lot of their experiences!

It sounds like you feel frustrated by the idea that you could be experiencing something more intense and pleasurable, but that you feel too sensitive to continue masturbating after you've orgasmed. Is that right? In my opinion, it's likely that as you continue to masturbate and have sex, you'll become more and more familiar with your body and what it likes, and you'll experience more pleasure — but, having negative emotions like frustration associated with masturbating or sex can make it a lot harder to feel pleasure! It can be a tough cycle. Can we talk more about where all your frustration about this is coming from?