Is there a way to not be aromantic?

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Blaze609
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Is there a way to not be aromantic?

Unread post by Blaze609 »

I would really love to be attracted to someone romantically. I've been identifying as AroAllo for about 3 months now. It made sense to me; I had realized that all the crushes I'd had were merely everyone around me having crushes, leading me to think I needed to have one as well.
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Re: Is there a way to not be aromantic?

Unread post by Heather »

Hi there, Blaze.

You know, we can’t make ourselves feel anything, feelings have their own agenda and are largely out of our control.

But it might help to talk about what you are looking for here: is it to feel a certain thing, just for the experience of it, or is it to have a certain kind of relationship or interaction?

If it’s the former, again, that’s just not something we can make happen. The latter, on the other hand, is probably more doable.
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