how to masturbait without porn

[Shreklover]

Im not sure whether i have a porn addiction or not, but iv wanted to try masturbaiting or atleast having sex without porn. Currently when i have sex i have to watch porn with my partner. So how do i do so.

[Sofi]

Hi, Shreklover.

You might get pleasure from watching porn and it makes you want to watch it often, and/or has become part of your ritual when it comes to sex (partnered or solo), but that's not the same as an addiction. The good news is, this means you won't have withdrawals or any of the awful things that come with quitting or cutting back on an actual addiction.

That said...can you share a bit more about what you mean when you say you can't have sex without porn - what happens if you try to?

[Shreklover]

Whenever i try im unable to keep being horny. My libido is very irregular and sustaining being horny is even harder

[Latha]

Hi there, Shreklover!

We can try to figure out why it is difficult to sustain arousal, and find ways that might make it easier. I have a few more questions:

• Think about the activities/dynamics/focus you enjoy when you watch pornography. Does the sex you have without porn contain the same elements? Or is it different, in certain ways?

• Have you noticed anything that seems to reduce arousal for you?

• How do you feel about your partner? Do you think you are attracted to them, and compatible sexually?

• Can you identify any emotions or thoughts that come to mind as you start to feel less aroused?