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Is my mom being abusive?

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Re: Is my mom being abusive?

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I guess I'll just be paitient. It might be a good one.
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nvm. I found out that the therapy is called Peace of Mind and that my therapist is a gal named Lisa.
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I also had yet another dream where I went to KMart and bought a toy screwdriver which had intense vibrations. My mom saw it but failed to notice the obvious power switch so I got to purchase it. I later tried to use it but I could never get far for some reason.
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So, both the counselors at that therapy center in your area are LCSWs. That means they are not psychiatrists who can prescribe you (or anyone) medications, so this will be about talk therapy, not about being prescribed anything.
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Exactly :).
If she doesn't call back today, my mom is going to call so I'll get even more information. On the other side, I'm still going to be dragged to the psychiatrist on Monday.
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Welp, Today I'm going to go to my sister's psychiatrist so I might ended up being prescribed some stupid pills. I had yet another dream in which I bought a cheap electric razor that provided lots of vibration.
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Being prescribed medication is a possibility, but it's not guaranteed. I would suggest you take this as an opportunity to talk with someone about what's been going on with your mom, and if you can, do so without her in the room (you are allowed to ask for that and the psychiatrist should honour that request).
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Turns out I got to stay out in the waiting room.
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In case you wanted to know, I got banned from Gurl.com for making duplicate accounts and for "Trolling" after my mom locked me out.
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What was the name of the psychiatrist you saw?
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Why?
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As Heather said, the therapists in the local counseling center are LCSWs, not psychiatrists, so I'm curious as to where she took you instead.
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Turns out I'm actually getting one that will come to my school. Not sure what will happen from there.
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Turns out I'm actually getting one that will come to my school. Not sure what will happen from there.
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My mom has still been giving me white pills everyday, as i wait for the therapist meeting.
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Do you know when the therapist is scheduled to meet with you?
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Mom said it was this week. Last week mom brought up me touching myself again in front of my sister and her friend whenever we mainly went inside a store. I felt a bit embarrassed by it, but never argued.
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onight she also took away my Hexbugs that I secretly use to get it off with. Im not sure if shes going to return them to me tomorrow, though it seems a bit strange for her to suddenly do this. Earlier she gave me ice cream while I was playing TwoDots and her only explanation for doing so was that she loves me.
On other note, Mom said that the therapist told her that it was great for me to stay off sites that "Promoted Masturbation" (The site she was referring to was Gurl.com). Im not sure if actual therapists are against people touching themselves unless they become utterly obsessed with it.
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Again, all I can say is that your best bet is to only listen to things that come from a therapist who actually sees/talks with you (without any family present). Anything else, especially coming from your mom, should be treated with caution.
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Mom just texted me that the therapist is coming next wednesday instead of this week. I just really hope I see the therapist really soon, because I'm getting so tired of all the stress mom has caused me over the course of this thread. My dreams even point out how mom stops me from fufilling my "needs" a lot of times, Although I haven't been feeling it lately because I've been sad since Monday when Mom went off on me again for having unsatisfactory grades in math.
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Hi Memekid,

I'm sorry that you have been feeling so sad lately. I can imagine that all of the ups and downs in the way your mom is treating you is beyond stressful. I hope that you get in with the therapist soon because this really is the best place for support, both with the emotional stress all of this has caused as well as help managing this relationship. It has been made very clear that having mental healthcare is extremely important!

You will likely have to take on an active role in making sure you can see a therapist. Since there has been some difficulty with securing your appointment, I would recommend that you call the therapist directly if you have not done so already. You can ask if you have an appointment scheduled and when. You can also check on any appointments that you might have had scheduled in the past. Do you know the name of the therapist and/or office? If not (and you can not get the information from your mom), since the appointment is taking place at school, administration staff or your counselor should be able to assist you in getting this info.
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Right now, mom was unsatisfied with two papers being late and took everything away. When I was being sad around her, she said I deserved it and even more :(.
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Today mom sent me yet another text telling me "Its Love Day" and it for me to send it to 20 other people including those I love. I only sent a question mark back but she never replied back....
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Can you pick up with Ashleah's questions and suggestions?
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I didn't know how to answer them, I apologize, since I don't know the name of the dude I'll be seeing.
Today my mom and sis were treating me like a little kid again and kept saying things like I was addicted and in denial about it, only children who've been sexually abused know sexual things, and that masturbation means depression. They also kept surveying me on the pc, so I can only reply at school most of the time.
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