Talk to someone

[Laney]

There are some links I could give to help you know what it is I want

[Heather]

Oh, sorry, I misread that as a typo.

So, the only things that make any kind of sexual play unsafe to do by ourselves is if it is somehow not physically safe for us -- like, for those who want to do choking, we'd say no, that's not okay to do alone because it risks your life -- or if it isn't emotionally safe for us. Since you don't seem to be expressing any tricky emotional feelings, and since role play like this isn't something that poses physical safety risks, then this is okay for you to explore if you like.

[Laney]

Well what about tell my parents should I because u do know what abdl is right

[Laney]

I mean should I u do know what it means right

[Heather]

I do know what it is. We're talking about adult baby role play.

What young people do and don't share with their parents about their sexualities usually has a lot to do with what that dynamic is in general and has been for most of their lives, but by and large, I'd say most young people and their parents don't talk a lot about what they like to do specifically when it comes to sex. That arena of sex tends to be a place where parents and their kids have some boundaries, both for everyone's privacy, but also because those specifics aren't really things people tend to feel the need to share with each other in that kind of relationship. It's also about if this is something you want to talk to them about.

Do you and your parents generally talk about the specifics of your sexuality? And what would you be looking for in a conversation with them about this if you want to have one?

[Heather]

(Also, Laney, please stop leaving short answers in quick succession as I asked earlier. Please just wait for myself or another staff member to answer you. Thanks.)

[Laney]

Well the thing is I want to tell them because if they find diapers won’t they be confused and I have talked to them about sex my mum is a reproductive nurse so she has answered my questions on sex

[Heather]

Okay, so it sounds like you already have a dynamic where you communicate about these kinds of things.

That given, this is probably as simple, then, as just telling your Mom that if she finds diapers, she doesn't need to worry about you or that anything's wrong, it's just something sexual you're exploring. How does that sound?

[Laney]

Well I guess how would I say it if I brought it up and how would I get them

[Heather]

You could say it just like I did up there? Or, if the way I say it doesn't feel liek you, you would say it in words that feel like your words.

Adult diapers are available pretty much anywhere you can get things like menstrual supplies or diapers for babies: at big box stores, or at local pharmacies, as well as online. Because so many people have a practical need for them, they're very easy to find.

[Laney]

No they don’t sell plastic ones near me and I hear they are softer so what could I say like to start the conversation

[Heather]

Then it looks like if this is something you want to explore you'll need to order them online for yourself.

From the sounds of things, it's common for you two to have these kinds of conversations, so starting the conversation about this sounds to be as simple as saying something like, "Hey, Mom, can I talk to you about something?"

I feel like you're building this up to be a much bigger something than it actually is. If all you want your Mom to know is that there are adult diapers somewhere she might find them and it's just about you being sexually curious, not unwell, this doesn't feel like a complicated discussion to me. And if it is, given her professional background, it sounds to me like she's very well-equipped to know how to handle it.

[Laney]

Ok well could I ask some questions about abdl

[Laney]

I do have some questions if that is ok

[Laney]

Ok so my questions I will ask them all now well here I go so how do I dispose of adult diapers? How do I cum in diapers is it ok to cum in a diaper are pacifiers bottles rattles chastity ok and do vibrators work on men?

[Laney]

I hope it is ok to ask

[Laney]

Please I want to know

[Laney]

It just feels like it would be awkward to tell them can you tell me how I can tell them without it being awkward?

[Laney]

could any anwercen my qustenons

[KierC]

Laney,

As Heather asked you a few times previously, please stop leaving multiple short posts in succession. You can think through what you’d like to ask fully before you post, so you don’t have to make multiple posts. A staff member will answer you when available.

You can dispose of adult diapers in the trash. Diapers are meant to absorb bodily fluids, and it is okay to ejaculate in a diaper. I’m not sure what you mean by “are pacifiers bottles rattles chastity ok,” it would help if you could rephrase your question so I can understand what you are asking and why.

To your last question: vibrators can be used by anyone regardless of what their gender identity is; they can also be used by anyone regardless of what genitals they have. Some vibrators are made to fit to the clitoris, g-spot, and more, and some are designed for the anus, the testicles, or the penis.

[Laney]

Well what I mean by bottles pacifiers chastity a lot an abdl people use those should I go all in on start slow or what

[Heather]

This isn't anything anyone else can tell you just like no one else could tell you what to do and at what pace with anything else. Sexual choices like these are personal choices. This is all up to you.

[Laney]

Ok could I ask have you ever had anyone ask about this I just want to know and see if I am the only one and won’t diapers smell in the trash

[Laney]

And I wanted to say thank you for your help

[Laney]

If you could tell me when is ur next live chats