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That's a great strategy. If you can, I would suggest making a list of all the places you could stay or go to that would keep you away from your aunt, so you know your options if things continue like this (or escalate).

One other option is to contact a domestic violence resource in your area. They may have some ability to help you safety plan as well.

Sam W wrote:That's a great strategy. If you can, I would suggest making a list of all the places you could stay or go to that would keep you away from your aunt, so you know your options if things continue like this (or escalate).

One other option is to contact a domestic violence resource in your area. They may have some ability to help you safety plan as well.

Didn't realize it, but I may of hurt my shoulder a bit.

Ouch. If that's the case, maybe check-in with the school nurse to see if everything is okay?

Do you know if there's a DV resource you're able to contact?

Sam W wrote:Ouch. If that's the case, maybe check-in with the school nurse to see if everything is okay?

Do you know if there's a DV resource you're able to contact?

I'm not sure if there is resources to contact, and if anything, they would be for nearby major cities. (I.e. Cleveland.)

KittyPink wrote:

Sam W wrote:Ouch. If that's the case, maybe check-in with the school nurse to see if everything is okay?

Do you know if there's a DV resource you're able to contact?

I'm not sure if there is resources to contact, and if anything, they would be for nearby major cities. (I.e. Cleveland.)

Got some ice for my shoulder and updated the situation.

KittyPink wrote:

KittyPink wrote:

Sam W wrote:Ouch. If that's the case, maybe check-in with the school nurse to see if everything is okay?

Do you know if there's a DV resource you're able to contact?

I'm not sure if there is resources to contact, and if anything, they would be for nearby major cities. (I.e. Cleveland.)

Got some ice for my shoulder and updated the situation.

Now, I'm being told that I lied and that I was never grabbed.

A quick google search didn't turn up any resources in your town specifically, but would you be open to phoning some of the services in Cleveland to see if they have any suggestions for you?

Karyn wrote:A quick google search didn't turn up any resources in your town specifically, but would you be open to phoning some of the services in Cleveland to see if they have any suggestions for you?

Yeah.

Okay. So maybe that's the next step then? And in the meantime, making arrangements to spend as much time out of the house as possible is probably a good idea.

Edited to add: There's a list of resources here as a starting place if you need one: https://www.domesticshelters.org/clevel ... elp?page=1

Karyn wrote:Okay. So maybe that's the next step then? And in the meantime, making arrangements to spend as much time out of the house as possible is probably a good idea.

I'm not sure if making any sort of contact with resources is a good idea, although. Ironically, my grandmother asked if I wanted CPS called.

What is it about contacting resources that you're concerned about?

Karyn wrote:What is it about contacting resources that you're concerned about?

I'm not sure, it just doesn't feel like a good idea after today blew up. (By the way, I'm never trusting counselors again, other than like the one that's currently on maternity leave.)

That's understandable, although if you want to revisit the possibility in the future, we can always lend a hand with finding resources in your area.

For now, is there anything else we can help you with?

Karyn wrote:That's understandable, although if you want to revisit the possibility in the future, we can always lend a hand with finding resources in your area.

For now, is there anything else we can help you with?

Not really, other than may trying to explain to me how it sounds like a good idea (protocol or not), to fucking tell my grandmother that I reported my aunt for the incident yesterday. Because that's what the substitute counselor did.

I just want to make sure I understand properly what happened: the counselor you spoke to reported the incident with your aunt, and then told your grandmother that you reported it yourself? Or the counsellor just spoke to your grandmother?

Karyn wrote:I just want to make sure I understand properly what happened: the counselor you spoke to reported the incident with your aunt, and then told your grandmother that you reported it yourself? Or the counsellor just spoke to your grandmother?

The counselor did, which is something I didn't like being done.

I'm still not sure I fully understand what happened, and if the counsellor did not tell you ahead of time that they were going to speak to anyone about the incident with your aunt, then it's understandable you're upset. Even when a report legally has to be made, the person whose safety or wellbeing is at risk should be informed that a report will be made.

Unfortunately, it is the law in Ohio (as it is in most places) that certain people, if they know or suspect that abuse is happening, have to report that abuse if the person being abused is under 18. Anyone who works at a school, for instance, is a mandated reporter: it is a crime for them not to report abuse or to act when they know that abuse is happening. However, it doesn't sound like this particular counsellor handled that responsibility very well at all, and I'm sorry for that.

For now, I completely agree with Sam's suggestion that your best course of action in the meantime is to find a way to spend as much time out of the house as possible (if you can), until your grandmother and your aunt are hopefully a bit calmer.

Karyn wrote:I'm still not sure I fully understand what happened, and if the counsellor did not tell you ahead of time that they were going to speak to anyone about the incident with your aunt, then it's understandable you're upset. Even when a report legally has to be made, the person whose safety or wellbeing is at risk should be informed that a report will be made.

Unfortunately, it is the law in Ohio (as it is in most places) that certain people, if they know or suspect that abuse is happening, have to report that abuse if the person being abused is under 18. Anyone who works at a school, for instance, is a mandated reporter: it is a crime for them not to report abuse or to act when they know that abuse is happening. However, it doesn't sound like this particular counsellor handled that responsibility very well at all, and I'm sorry for that.

For now, I completely agree with Sam's suggestion that your best course of action in the meantime is to find a way to spend as much time out of the house as possible (if you can), until your grandmother and your aunt are hopefully a bit calmer.

Well, at least from what I heard, it sounded like the counselor asked about it, like it was immediately presumed to be a lie. And, I honestly don't know what my grandmother's said.

Would it be helpful to talk to the counselor again to try to clarify what they said and did exactly? As Karyn said, it sounds like they handled this situation very poorly, which is unfortunate, but talking with them about what they did & how they handled it might give you a better sense of the situation.

Mo wrote:Would it be helpful to talk to the counselor again to try to clarify what they said and did exactly? As Karyn said, it sounds like they handled this situation very poorly, which is unfortunate, but talking with them about what they did & how they handled it might give you a better sense of the situation.

See below.

Mo wrote:Would it be helpful to talk to the counselor again to try to clarify what they said and did exactly? As Karyn said, it sounds like they handled this situation very poorly, which is unfortunate, but talking with them about what they did & how they handled it might give you a better sense of the situation.

I don't even know if I want to talk to the counselor again, I'm really pissed that happened and I'm not really trusting them anymore.

That's understandable. What do you think you would like to do about it, if anything?