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Sam W wrote:Got it. This sounds like a really stressful and frustrating situation for you, and I'm sorry you're dealing with it right now. It's hard when the person who is supposed to be caring for you is holding various threats over your head. Are you also asking your friends for support around this, so that you have people nearby you who you can confide in?

You mention facing consequences for not going. Am I right in assuming that those are the same consequences she's already threatening (like relinquishing custody)?

Yeah, the consequences are probably the same for going. And yeah, I'm asking for all the support I can get.

Oh good, I'm glad to hear you're maintain a "team you." That can be so important in these sorts of situations. Is there a particular kind of support we can offer to supplement what you're getting from your friends?

I'm not sure, outside of tonight, I have no plans for how to move forward.

KittyPink wrote:I'm not sure, outside of tonight, I have no plans for how to move forward.

Well, I ended up fighting with virtually everyone family-wise, and got myself so stressed out I got sick and vomited before the dance, so I couldn't of really gone anyway.

Oh, Kitty. I am so sorry.

I Feel like I deserve it, though. Also, my family knows that I was going to leave without permission, and I swear I'm the worst thing to them.

You didn't deserve it. You deserved to have a fun night out with people you like, and I'm so sorry that was ruined for you by the stuff going on with your family and that they're making you feel this way. Are there things you can do for yourself today, like hanging out with friends or some out-of-the-house self-care, to help you feel a little better?

I don't think so, I'm confused on where I stand as far as what I can and can't do.

Do you mean in terms of your family and how they'd react to things like you going out? Or something else?

Family, mainly with me going out, and also what exactly I'm allowed to do. (As if I went without permission to the dance, my grandmother told me I'd be labeled a runaway and have law enforcement called on me.)

Hey KittyPink,

I'm saddened to hear this news . Both that you were unable to dress up and go to the dance with your friends, but also that your family is making you feel so bad about yourself. You deserved none of this.

Have you gotten any clarification on what the rules are in your house right now?

And have you found some things you can do to treat your body & heart & mind with kindness? They deserve it! I know you know you're way around Scarleteen, but here's the self-care master list if you want to look over it and see what you feel drawn to: Self-Care a La Carte.