Scarleteen

Hii. I wanted to ask that does having sex for the first time hurts bc of the size of the penis? If it is then for girls whose have vaginal masturbation, can it be painless to have sex? Because I hear it a lot that first time really hurts and I wonder if they've never masturbate before? Or does it hurt bc lack of lubricant not the size of the penis?

So, if by sex you mean penis-in-vagina intercourse, it actually isn't supposed to hurt, not the first time, not any time.

When it does, it's usually because of any or all of the following (some of which you're already on to):
• a partner is too rough or aggressive
• people are having intercourse before the person with the vagina is very turned on, usually from other activities first, like a lot of making out, oral sex or playing with a sex toy
• people aren't using any or enough lubricant
• the person with the vagina is scared or nervous instead of relaxed, excited and happy
• the person with the vagina is expecting pain (with sex like anything else, if we expect something to hurt, it more often will)
• it doesn't feel good and the person with the vagina doesn't say anything
• the person with the vagina doesn't know what feels good for them -- like what they know from masturbation -- to tell their partner

It's not usually about penis size, because the vagina is very elastic. Any or all of those things up there can make it less so, but when there's pain, it's usually about those things, not penis size.

Thank you for answering this made it so clear for me now to understand.

Happy to help! Like I said, it does sound like you already had a feeling it was more like this, though.

Oh, by the way! I don't know if you already know her and her work or not, but you have a WONDERFUL sex educator in Turkey -- Rayka Kumru. Her site is here (https://www.raykakumru.com/), including her YouTube channel, if you aren't already aware of her!

I didnt know her but Im glad to hear. Im going to search about her now!