A weird question about sexuality

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A weird question about sexuality

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Over the past few years I've had both female and male crushes. But, really, I think I've figured out that I only want a romantic relationship with girls. With guys, even though they're cool and all I cant imagine myself being romantically in love with one, like living together etc.

Why would I feel this way?
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Re: A weird question about sexuality

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Hi BeepBoop,

The simple answer to why you feel this was is that sexual orientation is way more complex and varied that a lot of us assume. It's also common for people who are attracted to multiple genders to not feel the exact same way about each gender. Heather offers a really good explanation of that here: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advi ... _and_women.

Too, as we go through life, we may get information about our patterns of attraction that helps us see our sexual orientation in a new light. It sounds like that might be what's happening for you, and that's totally okay!

Does all that make sense?
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BeepBoop
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Re: A weird question about sexuality

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Yeah! Thanks a lot for that link, basically sums up the whole experience :3
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Re: A weird question about sexuality

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You're welcome, I'm glad it was helpful!
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