Gf dosent want to kiss

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jason12
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Gf dosent want to kiss

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Hey

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 6 months,whenever i try to kiss her she pulls back like eww and makes the face,and she says we kiss when we both want to,then later on in the night she would kiss me after the whole day of me wanting to,then if she was to try kissing me and i was to say no she wouldn't talk to me for 3 days and would say i dont like her anymore,is this fair??? Does this usually happen
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Re: Gf dosent want to kiss

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Hi jason,

The short answer is no, this isn't really normal, and it's usually a sign that something is up in the relationship. Of course, people get to refuse kisses offered by their partner because sometimes they're not in the mood, or they think they have terrible breath, etc. But constantly making an eww face when your partner tries to kiss you is rude. And that, coupled with the fact that when you don't kiss her she gives you the silent treatment, is looking like a power play or manipulation tactic from where I am standing.

How do you feel about your relationship overall?
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Re: Gf dosent want to kiss

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Given this post and your other, I'm wondering if you might be willing to share the story of this relationship. Where and when did you meet? How long have you been seeing each other? Romantically and sexually, have things been pretty mutually pursued and initiated, or was it more you than her, more her than you? And, as Sam asked, what's it like in general? Does she tend to behave in the rest of the relationship the way she has been around sex and physical affection, or does she behave very differently? Do you, overall, feel excited and happy in this relationship? Does she seem excited and happy in it?
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