How to go about minor forms of patriarchy resistance
Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2022 2:55 am
Hi! Thank you!
I've been reading articles about women "reclaiming public spaces", wearing what they want and going to public parks at night as an act of "undermining the sexist structure of (South Asian) society", and I want to start doing this too, in my general daily life!
I would like to wear what I want to, without taking into account what my family and other people I know are going to think about my "bad, provocative habits". (which doesn't mean I'm not going to be aware/alert in public places and it's going to be my fault if something bad happens, people )
Actually I don't even know yet what this means for me because I live with my parents and I haven't ever gone out with friends (people other than my parents, I mean), but I'll be going to college soon, and that's probably when I will start making actual decisions about this.
What I want to think about is, if I do this (act according to non-patriarchal viewpoints), and I really want to, how might I deal with these bad reactions by relatives and such people? How do I block sad feelings and not second-guess myself if my dad is irritated or "sad" because of what I'm wearing, but I know I would feel worse later if I gave in?
I also feel pretty insecure about this; I constantly feel like I'm wrong or making a big deal out of things like this. Can I fix that??
I would love help making sense of these decisions I've made and what actions I can take from now.
I've been reading articles about women "reclaiming public spaces", wearing what they want and going to public parks at night as an act of "undermining the sexist structure of (South Asian) society", and I want to start doing this too, in my general daily life!
I would like to wear what I want to, without taking into account what my family and other people I know are going to think about my "bad, provocative habits". (which doesn't mean I'm not going to be aware/alert in public places and it's going to be my fault if something bad happens, people )
Actually I don't even know yet what this means for me because I live with my parents and I haven't ever gone out with friends (people other than my parents, I mean), but I'll be going to college soon, and that's probably when I will start making actual decisions about this.
What I want to think about is, if I do this (act according to non-patriarchal viewpoints), and I really want to, how might I deal with these bad reactions by relatives and such people? How do I block sad feelings and not second-guess myself if my dad is irritated or "sad" because of what I'm wearing, but I know I would feel worse later if I gave in?
I also feel pretty insecure about this; I constantly feel like I'm wrong or making a big deal out of things like this. Can I fix that??
I would love help making sense of these decisions I've made and what actions I can take from now.